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This past weekend I attended the Waldorf in the Home Conference in Fair Oaks, California. This was my first conference ever so I was green in what these educational conferences were like. The classes I chose to take tended to appeal more to my parenting skills than learning what to teach my children, although, I did take a math, story time, and main lesson book class.
The main speakers this year were George Hoffecker and Bonnie RiverBento. Both were very good presenters. George introduced the value of the three R’s but not the three R’s you may be thinking about. He spoke of Rhythm, Respect, and Responsibility. When all three of these are flowing in a young child’s life education can happen because a child feels secure in his world. Rhythm in a child’s life produces Respect, which in turns produces Responsibility in a child. George also pointed out that we, as parents must visit our Core values from time to time to weed out the not so important values to throw out the dead values that we still hang on to and Renew within ourselves the Main values we hold dear. Are we letting our “living” take precedence over our children? George said, “Our children are our living”. Think about that for a minute. If we believe that our children are our living how would we change our schedules to meet the needs of our children?
Bonnie also reinforced the importance of the three R’s and Core values but added her three S’s – Sensory Simplicity is Spiritual. She went on to say that we tend to over stimulate our children with all the choices and material possessions we give them. This over stimulation actually makes our children expend more energy than they need to and will Awaken them sooner than they were meant to be awakened. We over schedule them in art, music, dance, baseball, soccer, religious and culture education and so much more. “A Child with a crowded schedule is not a child but an adult” a quote that really stuck with me from Bonnie RiverBento. This is so true, not that we as adults should have overly crowded schedules but this is really an overtaxing dilemma for the young child – he/she just does not know how to deal with it. One really good example that she gave us to picture how “over scheduling” and too many choices effects children is to describe you walking into an office with piles of paper work for you to do. Your reaction would most likely be AGHH same with a child who walks into a room filled with toys they are just flabbergasted at the enormous amount of decisions that they have to make. I really enjoyed what I learned from these professionals and truly will carry this weekend in me for a lifetime.
Another speaker I came across at the conference was one of the authors of Magical Parent-Magical Child, Michael Mendizza. At first I thought this was a really depressing class because it seemed he only went into what we as parents did wrong. (Well I already knew what I was doing wrong, I was hoping to be led into the light of what to do right) Thankfully toward the end of the lecture he gave us the key -- To get rid of our self-image. If we parent without a self-image we aren’t performing for anyone and we are in the moment with our child fully and not anywhere else. He said that self-image is a reflex we have learned over the years of having to defend ourselves from the attacks of others. One really good quote I liked was “There is no Intelligence in reflex”. Just think about that, just like we don’t have to think when a doctor taps our knee, we don’t think when our self-image kicks in. Be aware of it’s presence and counteract it, take in the moment you are in now and change now or as Michael put it so well “Reincarnate NOW”.
This is just a glimpse of what I learned over the weekend. But, I sure did pick up quite a few jewels along the way to add into the “Mommie” crown I am wearing daily. Take the time to renew yourself, to clear yourself of any negative energy you may have tagging along and just BE with you children in the moment without thinking of “what will they think of me if…”. Our children are our most precious jewels we must care for them, polish them, and store them in a soft and protective place until they learn to do this for themselves.
For more information on Conscious Parenting I suggest the following books:
Magical-Parent, Magical Child – The Optimum Learning Relationship by Michael Mendizza and Joseph Chilton Pearce
Natural Childhood by John Thomson
Lifeways. Working with Family Questions by Gudrun Davy and Bons Voors, Eds.
You Are Your Child’s First Teacher by Rahima Baldwin Dancy
Seven Times the Sun, Guiding Your Child through the Rhythms of the Day by Shea Darian
Sara is a Proud mommie to two beautiful boys and the blessed wife of her best friend. She spends her time helping other mommies, teaching her children, and running a home. To sign up for her Newsletter MommieCare send email to email@example.com?subject=”SUBSCRIBE_NEWSLETTER