While my thoughts were being gathered for this article I had done a careful study of individuals, male and female in relationships. Sometimes my study was purposely done, other times not: just a casual glance in a direction where things were happening and I happened to be there and took notes in my mind
NOTE THAT THE HEADER IS THE ADAM NATURE NOT THE ADAMIC NATURE, ALL FOR A PURPOSE
I came to a conclusion of sorts (maybe not the final one as we continue to interrelate till Jesus returns), but I have been able to get enough to make me write this
The GIVER and the TAKER (If I am permitted to use this word for the purpose of this writing) are the two main types in an average relationship, in so many instances there is selfishness displayed one to the other, often one not caring about the next manís feelings, we find ourselves in situations that are sour to the taste buds especially because we leaned on our own understanding in decision making for such relationships to come to be in our lives
To start with let us look at the typecast we see in the average relationship without Godís involvement:
ADAM (dare I say a k a: Nabal?)
In the beginning Adam was put in charge of the garden to care for it, tend it and be in charge always.
He was created as a single human being with the animals in the garden, God looked at him and said it was not good to leave him by HIMSELF in the garden but before this time he was given a strict warning, Genesis 2:16-17 and command.
He seemed from the beginning to lack self-control, self-esteem and deep spiritual analysis of a situation especially where the woman was concerned (ironical, isnít it?) why? He was standing right there when Eve accepted to eat the fruit, but he said nothing to discourage her and even when she offered him to try it, he did not need any persuading because he seemed not to have a contrary opinion whatsoever about the act, he simply ate without a comment or complaint.
No wonder Abigail said of her man to King David, Nabal is his name and FOOLISHNESS is the meaning
EVE (a k a: Delilah or Jezebel)
Eve, made but not created like Adam (who was created from the soil of the Earth with all other living things) Genesis 2:19, was brought into the picture to lighten Adamís burdens, keep him company and add abundance to his life (Genesis 2:18) this seemed to be her major purpose and assignment.
When she was finished and perfected by the Almighty, Adam could not take his eyes off her but could only declare that she was indeed part of him.
Eve probably knew from the beginning the full effect and capability of her influence over Adam.
She seems, from the onset to have a manipulative, conniving and controlling instinct over her man, very ambitious (it seems also-Genesis 3:5-6) it did not take a brain surgeon to work on her to convince her man to try the fruit and eat.
Her hypnotic effect over him was wielded at the slightest opportunity to the fullest
With careful analysis and study of the human nature in the display of our weaknesses and strengths and how we instinctively react to one another, especially in relationships
After deep careful thinking it suddenly dawns on me that it has been so since the beginning when man decided to disobey the Almighty with blatant disregard
It seems that some sort of role reversal due to confusion and distraction is always taking place in relationships
Why does the Delilah type always seem to have the best, be in total control and get what she wants all the time as it seems, from Mr Adam? Answer: because she has learnt to use her natural instinct to its full potential and has also made the greatest discovery of all time, Adam is easily ENTRALLED by her type!
God wants us to bring ALL thoughts and character trait to the submission and obedience of the Holy Spirit also acknowledge Him as the wise one to help us properly use the positive and harness the negative, come to think about it, the proverbs 31 woman never really appears alluring, attractive nor appealing to Mr. Adam, but proverbs 14:1 woman could have the key to, not just survival in her relationship but living life to the fullest because she has the guidance of the Holy Spirit in using her natural charms to affect her Adam positively
Probably why God told Sarah that her name needed to be changed to the MOTHER of all nations because that is the role the Lord needs her to play more often and probably why he also served Adam with such very strict punishment and God gave His main reason-Genesis 3:17----AND UNTO ADAM HE SAID, BECAUSE THOU HAST HEAKENED UNTO THE VOICE OF THY WIFE (1), AND HAST EATEN OF THE TREE, OF WHICH I COMMANDED THEE, SAYING, THOU SHALT NOT EAT OF IT (2) CURSED IS THE GROUND FOR THY SAKE;IN SORROW SHALL THOU EAT OF IT ALL THE DAYS OF THY LIFE
Take heed Bro Adam lest thou fall, ask God to guide you always where Sis Eve is concerned. You need discernment and wisdom in decision making always.
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