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How To Live In A Relationship Of Unconditional Love
by Anita Thomas
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Your Love Life…Your “Beloved”

Where do we start? There’s so much to talk about. There’s nothing quite as good as a great conversation.

Words…we don’t always appreciate them for what they’re worth. How many emotions are in a single word? Maybe you’ve never thought about that but I want you to start thinking about it now. The words you’re going to be reading are going to change your life and the words I’ve written, are inspiring to me, as well, because they're coming from the love I have in my heart for God and the love He says we have a right to experience. I want to express to you, what I know to be true. That’s what’s called a creative energy exchange. Love is that energy.

What is there to say about this? You tell me. It depends on where you’re at. What do you want out of a relationship? What are you willing to put into it? Make sure you’re ready for a soul mate relationship. How can you know if it is that kind of a relationship? If you let fear get in your way you’ll never be ready so there’s absolutely no way to “know.” You must trust in love.

You have to be willing to take a chance. That’s kind of scary if you let it be that way. Your desire for love has to be greater and stronger than your fear. Why do people remain in fear? Is there some kind of security there or a secret enjoyment of this negative state of mind? You might be surprised if you could look at people’s minds but that’s not our privilege or our right. We need to respect each other’s privacy, especially in our most personal relationships. Ready to read on?

Let’s start with that word “Beloved”. Without that person you won’t have any love life at all. We’re not meant to live in isolation. We all need a “Beloved” but who is this? Someone we chance to meet? Or does Destiny play a part in this? Is it pre-ordained? Or do we perhaps search for each other, driven by our Soul’s Intentions and not by our conscious mind?

You have to admit that unconditional Love is a pretty grand concept. Concepts are not tangible, so we must bring this fantastic energy into our lives by our ardent desires. If we have no passion for life, we will have no passion for love and the other way around. So our first consideration is this: True love can and does exist but we have to look for it and then discover its ultimate passion because we want to.

Your Beloved must come before your love life. That’s your #1 priority. You can decide exactly what you want in a partner and then you can almost count on falling in love with somebody completely different. That’s because our heart doesn’t always agree with our head.

There are some rules you should abide by in relating to your Beloved.

1. Don’t try to change them. You fell in love with a real live person. They’re going to have their own unique ways. This is what attracted you in the first place, isn’t it?

2. Give them enough space to breathe. You can’t be together every minute. This would drive both of you crazy. You need your own space too. If you ignore this rule you’re probably going to get into trouble. You could even wind up breaking up.

3. Be able and willing to experience love completely. If you want them to give all their love to you then you have to do the same thing. Fair is fair.

4. Don’t try to be too controlling. Usually one partner is more aggressive than the other. You have to blend with each other. No one is the slave or the master. You are both each of these things, to each other.

5. Treat your Beloved with respect, sincerity and honesty and expect to receive these same things.

6. Truly enjoy being with your Beloved. These are six simple rules to follow and they’re easy if you have love in your heart.

Use your Soul Emotions to experience and you’ll see your Beloved in a new light.

Let’s make a toast then, to “Being in Love” and being with your Beloved. You must have a place in your heart where you can analyze and feel all these things. Your Beloved should be the Light in your Life. This may sound corny but it’s the truth…Trust me. Enjoy Love and your Beloved.

Is your love life separate from the rest of your life? It can be but most people find this to be unpleasant. There’s the common desire to be together as much as possible. Denying yourselves this pleasure tends to separate you.

In your relationship there are two things that are always there: giving and receiving and you have to be able to do both of these. If you can’t you’re going to run into problems again. You need to do both of these things to have that extra-ordinary relationship. In “giving” you’re expressing your love. In “receiving” you’re feeling it. There is a difference there. If these are skills you haven’t developed, then you need to work on them.

We cannot be smug or complacent about love. It’s like a rose that blooms but the rose needs water. So to see the beauty of love completely, you must put into it what it needs to be able grow. “Giving” means that you must give with all your heart and soul. Anything else is unworthy of it. “Receiving” is just as important. If your feelings are frozen and you can’t feel the love, it might as well not be there, for all it’s worth to you.

Love is always around us in the spiritual sense but we must activate it. This is our birthright and our responsibility. Living in such a love is possible and practical. Love is free. Put your money away if you’re used to paying for things. You can’t buy love with any kind of monetary exchange. As I said, you need to be able to both give and receive.

Think about the two of you in ecstasy. Isn’t this a grand thought? Again there are no words to really describe this experience. If you’ve had it, you know what I’m talking about. If you haven’t, then look for it. Anticipate it. Really want it.

I"m trying not to sound patronizing but it does no good to worry constantly about what’s happening now or what’s going to happen. Worrying about the past can be a problem too. These things can can cause you to feel despair and this does not go with love at all. So if you do this, try to quit doing it right now. It will only slow you down to where you can’t enjoy anything. The point is to enjoy things more.

Anxiety is another thing that should be avoided. There is absolutely nothing it can do for you. I personally don’t like the feeling of a knot in my stomach. It can give you ulcers too. I’m not a doctor but I do know that stress can show up in your body and anywhere and any way that it does is bad. So consider trying to break this negative habit if you have it.

This means that in spite of yourself, you have to have faith in something. Love is a really good thing to have faith in. Sometimes it seems to let you down but remember that at any given time, you’re only experiencing part of it, not the entire essence of it.

Love is not anything to play with. It’s not a game that you win or lose and then forget about. If you do, you may well lose your heart to someone who doesn’t care. It’s no fun to have a broken heart and most of us try to avoid that, sometimes by not feeling in the first place. You can close yourself off to such a point that any prospective lover has to have a crow bar to pry you away from this isolated state of mind. Re-think your love life and then how much you care or should care about your Beloved. There is no end to love. It’s like a circle…continuing forever.

God bless us all and bring the love too us, that we all need.

Written by Anita Thomas

Copyright 2004

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