Should a Christian Girl Date in Highschool?
By: Hannah McClure
Is it ok to have a boyfriend in highschool if your a christian? I've reviewed different people about this. The original message is from faahxng who started this. I think its important for the teens to know this.
Original message faahxg- Hey everyone,
I was just wondering and would like anyones comments to this...Should christian youths have bf/gf?? Do you think it's right?
COURTNEY- "Now, I do believe there's nothing in the Bible that says that Christians shouldn't date, but it does say that we should not be unequally yoked with someone who is not Christian. In other words, Christians should only date other Christians. And there are different definitions of being a Christian, but a Christian should be someone who stands out, who acts Christ-like, someone who stands up for what's right. When a Christian and a non-Christian date, there is temptation from one person and even both.
fAAXNG- "Thanks for those comments....it's a very confusing topic for me...I know that there isn't anything really in the Bible that talks about youthful relationships. However, if you were a parent and your thirteen year-old child came up to you and said he/she had a bf/gf in the church, what would you say?
ASTROBOY- "You should look up the verse where it says do not awake love before it so desires.
many youths don't even know what it is to love a person. its more than emotion its a decision. the way the world "dates" is stupid n rather selfish n pointless. it connotes a formal title and a position. look into a thing called courtship which is more like a process than a state.
and again theres the verse, when i became a man i put away childish things, you should probably what till u are a man or woman of God because you'll still handle things like a child.
ill say that I've met an amazing girl now and Im in grade 11 (16 yrs) and am always baffled at how mature and wise she is for her age(she really is great!). but besides all the wisdom we may have we refuse to date untill out of school. at the moment we just want to stay as good friends and see if the emotion grows or not. by not jumping into anything or just doing the normal "i like you, you like me lets date" thing, a lot of potential pain and hurt is avoided. We just want to see where God may take it.
just stop looking at the majority of people who date, even a whole lot of Christians dont date properly. beat the convention and remember that you need to make yourself into a man or woman of God that a partner needs and should deserve. the person of your dreams deserves a whole lot more than childish emotion they deserve a stable and prayerful follower of christ.
wow i manage to blab on... neways peace out all in wonderland."
KOREDE- i dont think it's wrong to be in relationship as long you get your priorities straight and don't put the person before God
My Message to Everyone - "Hold on now everyone. I think its ok to have a bf in highschool. Just make sure he's christian. Although it might be kind of hard to date when your getting ready for exams. During this time in our lives its a time to become closer to Christ. I mean when we get older we get closer but as we're youths we learn more things. I've seen pregnant girls walking around with fat tummies at the highschool. There have been a few that have dropped out because of the temptation during too early dating. One good thing you can do is get a purity ring and wear it until marriage. I guess guys could wear a purity wristwatch or classring I guess. I mean I'm a girl, so I dont know what guys like. I have a diamond ring that I call my purity ring. It really is pretty. I feel like a princess wearing it, and thats how I'll feel when my real boyfriend gives me my engagement ring.
Heres a verse I really love about purity and talks about the way a christian husband should be. Read closely
Ephesians - Chapter 5:3-7 3. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for Godís holy people.
4. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5. For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person--such a man is an idolater--has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
6. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things Godís wrath comes on those who are disobedient.
7. Therefore do not be partners with them.
So its wrong what mtv and tv tries to say. "Oh we should let the guys do whatever with the girls." What is it? A sex model?
I liked what astroboy said. It sounds like he has his priorities straight. I hope I dont embarrass you but thats exactly what I'd look for in a guy. Its great to hear guys comments on this. Girls we need to remember who we are during our highschool years. Its easy to get messed up fast. If you find a guy that is truly a christian and hot on fire for Christ thats great. If he seems not that interested when you mention church thats probably not to great. Live by the dating handbook and
1. See if hes a christian
2. date him for more than 6 months so that you'll get to know him and be friends
3. Look at his parents. If you see anything in them you dont like than you need to stop dating this guy.
4. Stop dating him if he has pride, wants to get intimate, seems to rush into relationship, is ignoring you most of the time,doesnt care about going to church or reading his Bible, wants to talk about things he shouldnt.
There are guys (lots) at my highschool that are always talking about girls and sex. I think it comes from mtv. They act pridefull are disrespectful towards the teachers, and are touching the girls.Thats not the guy you want to date, because if hes just attracted to you intimately while only dating you a week. He probably only wants your body for sex and not lifelong friendship. He'll just hop from girl to girl. Think of it as animals. NO offense guys. But you know animals. They mate and thats all they do. They try to attract the girl to do that with them. And then its done. Good bye. However there are animals such as loons who stay together for life. When you think of a husband you think of staying with him for life. Love is not a game. So when dating in highschool dont treat it like a game. Be cautious.
There can be rape, people who pretend to be christians, alot of fakeness to impress seems to go around. Its best to date after highschool, unless your studying too hard to think about that. So I think the best thing is to date after college. I know its a long time to wait, but you'll be all done with your studies and living your own life! And while your living your own life you can find that man, God willing.
Let me tell you something though. Its not always Gods will for us to be dating. In one part of the BIble it talks about this and God tells us that if we are not to marry we must become infatuated with Him. One good thing to being single is you can grow closer to God and have the freedom of reaching others to Christ. There was a nun in the Bible who devoted her life to being single. She served God with all her heart. In one part of the Bible it says that God chooses our paths and can lead us one way or the other. Into being single or being married. Their both different. Marriage is hard work, keeping up with the baby. The love still holds but it becomes too tough to stand when theres so much work to do. Thats why its important to find the right husband/ wife. Because true couples hold up even when the situations get tough. Its kind of like two fruits. A apple and watermelon. The watermelon bursts open when you drop it. The apple only bruises when you drop it. Your husband should be like that apple. Any situation thats tough will only bruise him.
So you see theres two point of views. Remember to pick the right guy before you say those important words. "I do." That means devotion."
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