Are you a forgiving born again believer? You had better be!
"Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft (often) shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times? Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven."
The point Jesus was making was that we should forgive without limit! With as much as God has forgiven us our sins, we should only be too eager to be as forgiving.
Here's proof to back up my statement:
"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." (Ephesians 4:32)
Here are a few more verses to show that we are to be forgiving:
"For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
To parallel this, look at John 20:23, "Whosoever sins ye remit, (forgive) they are remitted unto them; and whosoever sins ye retain, they are retained." Jesus was merely telling the Apostles that whoever asked to be forgiven they were forgiven. But if the sinner did not ask for forgiveness they were not forgiven.
Before you became a born again believer, you may have merely considered forgiveness as an option. You may have only forgiven certain people or you did it with some agenda in mind to keep favor with someone. Well, now that you are a born again believer...forgiveness is no longer an option it is a command!
Although we SHOULD do it out of a wanton desire to do so to fulfill the love of Christ in ourselves, it is highly required to be eagerly forgiving. I know it is difficult at first to be so forgiving, but we are being conformed to Christ now so it WILL get easier and become less of an effort to do it. We will even do it to glorify God, for it will show others that Jesus is shining through us and we are to let our light shine through at all times!
One thing I could recommend to you if you are having trouble with forgiveness is to pray about it! Consult God's Word regarding forgiveness. See why you are remaining hung up on this issue. Your pastor may even be able to help you. That's his role: give his sermon, guide and prepare the congregation to go out and do the work, not writing best-selling books, promoting himself, compromising the church and so on.
In conclusion, let me leave you with this:
"And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye PUT ON the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness." (Ephesians 4:23-24)