First of all let me say that I am not a woman, but I have done enough studying of the Word thus far about women in the first century church to be able I believe to do an article on the behavior of born again women. We'll explore scripture to see how born again Christian women should carry themselves and their appearance, etc. Therefore, this article is aimed at a particular audience, born again women!
In today's church, members of the body of Christ fail or do not want to follow a Biblical structure of how to dress, behave, or care for themselves. Now don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to impose a bunch of legalistic rules on born again women. I just see too many Christian women going around with an unbiblical view of themselves and more of a Feminist, worldly view.
Contrary to what a lot of women think, the church is NOT a male dominated entity. The body of Christ has men and women in it. Lets look at all the verses that prove this:
"And believers were the more added to the Lord, multitudes both men AND women."
"As for Saul, he made havoc of the church, entering into every house, and haling men AND women committed them to prison." Acts 8:3
In the church's early years, it was fiercely persecuted. Men and women were wrenched from their homes and imprisoned and or killed. This is currently going on in Africa, and other areas of the world, especially in Islamic regions.
"But when they believed Philip preaching the things concerning the kingdom of God, and the name of Jesus Christ, they were baptized, both men AND women." Acts 8:12
"And desired of him letters to Damascus to the synagogues, that if he found any of this way, whether they were men or women, he might bring them BOUND unto Jerusalem." Acts 9:2
"And I persecuted this way unto the death, binding and delivering into prisons BOTH men and women." Acts 22:4
So you see, God shows us that men and women received Jesus as their Saviour and were persecuted for their faith in him, even unto death. He also gives born again men and women guidance and instruction on appearance, behavior and so on. We are going to explore many New Testament passages where God tells born again women how he wants them to live a modest, godly life in Christ.
Everyone who is part of the body of Christ is a servant of Christ, both men and women. In Romans 16:1, 2, and 6 Paul instructs the church on how to receive a few women servants in the church:
"I commend unto you Phoebe our sister, which is a servant of the church which is at Cenchrea: That ye receive her in the Lord, as becometh saints, and that ye assist her in whatsoever business she hath need of you: for she hath been a succorer (helper) of many, and of myself also." (16:1, 2)
"Greet Mary, who bestowed much labor on us." (16:6)
Now we will get a really good look at what a godly born again woman should look like. Go to Titus 2:3-5.
"The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things."
Let's break this down now. Born again women should behave with a godly holiness as opposed to a self-centered holiness, meaning they should keep themselves pure of mind and thought, pray for counsel and wise advice from Jesus. Don't make judgment calls, or slam other people about what they do. "Not false accusers" means to not accuse others of something without having all the information or just going by what someone else said. "Not given to much wine" (which is a strong drink and would also apply to beer) means not to drink until you get drunk. The Bible never says you cannot drink, but God does say you should not drink until your so shnockered you can't stand up straight. After all Jesus drank wine at the wedding at Cana. You have to remember that wine was pretty much the drink that monopolized the region as far as what you had to drink. "Teachers of good things" leads into the next verse (4) where we get examples of teaching good things.
"That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children." Sober first of all has many meanings that all apply here. First of which is not given to excessive drinking. Be moderate, sedate or tranquil in your manner, quiet and inconspicuous, not wreckless. "Love their husbands," means what it says! Don't question his decisions in public to cause a big scene. Always be faithful to the man, help him in whatever he needs. Don't go off and do your own thing to drive stress and friction into the marriage. Feminism has seeped into Christian marriages over the years causing a lot of harm. I think groups target women and indoctrinate them into this feminist worldview.
I know what their gimmick is, "You are your own woman, you don't let your man tell you what to do! Open the door for yourself, take charge!" But look at 1 Corinthians 11:3 for a moment: "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." Finally we come to "love their children." One would think this would obvious. In deed born again Christian women, love your children! If you have very young children say 3-years-old or so, get the child a Kids KJV Bible at a Christian bookstore; read to them, get Christian activity booklets and things that demand interactivity between you and your child(ren). And if you can afford it, put them in a Christian school, rather than sending them off to our godless public schools. The Christ-centered, Bible-centered church you go to may have its own school, so get them in there.
Verse 5: "To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed." Born again Christian women should not do things to draw attention to themselves therefore they should be discreet and chaste. The woman should keep the home looking nice; be good in what she does and obey her Christian husband. All this should be done so that no one can speak against them to blaspheme the instruction of the Word of God.
Now go to 1 Timothy 2:9-12.
"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array."
"Modest apparel" means not dressing in tight, low-cut tops or really short skirts, that only serves to draw attention to, well, ahem, certain areas shall we say! Don't go to church all glammed up another words with gaudy jewelry, fancied up hair and such.
"But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works." Let your good works and reverence for God be your dressing.
"Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection." This is a verse that feminists hate! During a worship service, women were and are to listen and learn quietly, without asking a bunch of questions about what this and that mean. And they are subject to church leadership as well. This apparently was a problem in the Corinthian church.
"But I suffer (allow) not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence." God established an order in humanity. The man was created first (Adam), then the woman (Eve) for the man to be a helper, companion (Genesis 2:18, 21-25). And as I just quoted from 1 Corinthians 11:3, "...the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."
With that, a woman is NOT to teach the man or have authority over him in the church. But as I quoted from Titus 2:4, a woman CAN teach younger women in the church. This is where Methodist, Episcopalian and Presbyterian churches have wildly strayed from the Word. There is even a Baptist church that has ordained a lesbian pastor. Homosexuality is becoming more increasingly accepted into our churches, where gay or lesbian ministers and pastors have access to and an audience with children and are hence having an effect on the direction of churches. Feminist women pastors can have the same effect on congregations as well.
Consider this timely quote from the great Christian pastor Jack Hyles, "You can name anything you want to name, but I am opposed to anything in the world that de-emphasizes the line of difference between the sexes. I believe that ladies ought to be feminine and sweet and lovely and charming. I believe men ought to be strong and masculine and decisive. I'm opposed to anything that makes a man and a woman act alike, look alike, dress alike or talk alike.
-from Dr. Hyle's sermon, Unisex.
Let's look at Colossians 3:18, "Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord." Feminists and modernists both hate this verse as well. Just like the verse commands, wives (born again wives) ARE to and SHOULD submit themselves to their husbands in a way that is fitting to the Lord Jesus. Does this mean they should be a robot and follow their husband around like a puppy? NO!
Let's remember that after the Gospels, the rest of the New Testament is written TO the born again believing church body, not saved and unsaved or unsaved only. Everything about it is for the believers; to build them and us (later generations who come to believe in Jesus) up, discipline us, commend us and warn us against false prophets, christs and teachings.
We are going to look at a few more things before I end this article. Go to 1 Corinthians 11:4-16. This is an interesting passage of scripture. This whole section is about men and women's hair. Yes, that's right...hair! You wouldn't think hair would be a big thing in the church, but as we will see, God thinks it is a big thing.
"Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoreth his head."
-We'll see here quickly that "covered" does not mean to have something physically on your head to cover it like a cloth or something.
"But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoreth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven."
-All right, so far we see that God says it is a shame for a man to be covered when he prays or is prophesying and now it is dishonorable for a woman to be uncovered.
"For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaved, let her be covered."
-Shorn first of all means to have short hair and of course shaved means to be bald or at least nearly. Go to verse 14 to really nail this passage home.
"Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have LONG HAIR, it IS a shame unto him? BUT if a woman have LONG hair, it IS a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering."
-And there it is! Paul said that even nature, the natural order of things, teaches us that a man should not have long hair, it is a shame unto him! And just personally speaking, I think it is gross and uncouth and a sign of laziness to care for the way you appear to people. Just try to go and interview for a real world job as a man with long hair. See how far you get! Now, verse 15 just told us what the "covering" is...hair. A born again woman should have long hair because it is a glory to her from God. God gave born again women long hair for a reason, to be a glory to her. As a born again woman, do you want to refuse the glory of the Lord and chop off your hair, rebelling against God? I wouldn't think you would! Now, let me just say this, nowhere in scripture does it say this is a sin or that you will burn in Hell. So don't accuse me of saying anything like that, okay!
However, God clearly says it is a shame for a man (even a born again man) to have long hair and a woman should have long hair. Scripture tells us never to bring shame or grief to the Holy Ghost (Ephesians 4:30). I have talked to a number of born again women that agree with the meaning of these scriptures and that is why they don't cut their long hair. Other women think it is rubbish and explains to me why they have short hair, thus rebelling against God.
Now, go to Proverbs 31:10-12, 26-28, 30. In these verses, God tells us what kind of women men should be with, which even as an Old Testament passage can be pulled through the cross and applies to believers to this very day.
"Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price (worth) is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised."
I agree wholeheartedly with how God describes a virtuous woman, the type of woman any born again man should find. A born again man should ONLY be with a woman who is a born again believer, a virgin and has never been married. And visa versa for a born again woman. She should ONLY be with a born again man who is a virgin and has never been married. Here is another great example of the type of born again woman Paul wrote about, as lead by God:
"The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy BOTH in body and in spirit." (1 Corinthians 7:34)
This is totally Biblical and a command of God to us believers! It is not just my opinion!
And just to ease anyone's mind, I do plan on doing an article on the behavior of born again men.