Before I became a pastor's wife I used to wonder what went on in the minds of Pastor's wives. I knew that I could never truly understand, but wanted the inside scoop of how they felt. So incase you might be wondering, you may not care, but I will share with you a little of what goes on in my mind:
I have a strong faith in God's faithfulness because he is faithful inspite of me not because of me.
I have a strong purpose to hold up my husband's arms and be his support especially when no one is looking.
I feel a strong call to my family remembering that my first and foremost ministry is my husband and children.
I feel a strong obligation to God to be blameless that no man or woman would stumble because of me.
I feel a strong call to rightly divide the Word of God that I would not be ashamed or shame my Jesus.
I feel a strong sense of community, that within our church and outside people matter to God and people matter to us.
I have a strong focus that in the midst of pressures and other peoples expectations that I have to be myself and focus on Christ and be pleasing to Him.
I have a strong call to minister to the orphan, the widow, the poor and the needy because the bible says that this is true religion.
I have a strong sense of belonging, that I am not just a pastor's wife but a daughter of the Most High God, who has a Heavenly Father that loves me unconditionally and has forgiven me and gave me a new life as a new creation.
I have a strong obligation to share that good news with the world that God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son that who should ever believe in
Him (Jesus) would not perish but have ever lasting life.
These are just some things that I have learned, processed and felt compelled to do as a woman married to a pastor and as a child of God.
The most important lesson I have learned as a pastor's wife is that I'm not perfect and that I can't do it on my own I need Jesus. The bible says that apart from Him we can do nothing. In the midst of my imperfections He is perfect and so I look to Him for my strength, protection and my perfection.
I hope this gives you a better idea of what goes on in the mind of pastor's wives and if you attend a church I want to encourage you to hold up the arms of your pastors and their wives because they need your support and they pray for you daily and please remember to pray for them.
Thanks Leila I appreciate your honesty. I wrote this on my blog as my own personal thoughts and wasn't intending to turn it into an article but thought it might give someone an idea of how we think, inspite of how we feel. There's a lot of emotion that I go through on a personal level but this article wasn't meant to express that. I appreciate your thoughts and will keep that in mind the next time I write an article. God Bless
I really liked this article but my own impression was- it was to spiritual and maybe should have a little more human aspect to it. For instance we know the wife has a firm faith in her God but there has to be times she does stumble and wrong thoughts have to surface at times. We all meet people we do not really like and these thoughts have to come into play then be banished. Its hard to explain. The piece needs more of a human side to it, I guess. I'm not a professional though.