TEMPER--- An emotional setback!
by Jide Oboise
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TEMPER--- An emotional setback!
Proverbs 1:7 and 15:1
THE FEAR OF THE LORD IS THE BEGINNING OF KNOWLEDGE: BUT FOOLS DESPISE WISDOM AND INSTRUCTION
A SOFT ANSWER TURNETH AWAY WRATH: BUT GRIEVOUS WORDS STIR UP ANGER
I once heard a story that I want to share with all of you to encourage, liberate and deliver all who read this from being foolish and from the power and stronghold of sin, especially in this way.
The story is about a little boy who had a very bad
Temper, His Father was at his wits end about this character trait and did not know what he could do to help. One day, he had an idea
He gave to his son a bag of nails
Then told him, `son, any time that you get angry,
Hammer a nail into the back
Of this fence, the fence was a beautifully painted white fence that the father had taken a lot of time and effort to work on.
On the first day alone the boy
Drove 37 nails into the fence!
Over the next few weeks,
He learned to control his
anger because he was dazed by the number of nails that he saw at the end of each day! Gradually the number of nails hammered daily dwindled.
He discovered that
It was easier to hold his temper than to
Drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't
Lose his temper at all. In excitement, he told his father
His father then suggested that he
Pull out one nail for each day that
He was able to hold his temper.
The days passed and the young boy was finally
Able to tell his father that all the nails Were gone.
The father took his son by the
Hand and led him to the fence, He said, "You
Have done well, my son,
But look at all the holes in the fence!
Sadly this fence will never be
The same again.
When you say things in anger,
They leave scars just like these ones.
When you put a knife in a man and draw it out quickly in regret,
It won't matter how many times you say I'm
Sorry, the wound remains!
A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one,
If not worse!
I DON´T KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT I LEARNT A WHOLE LOT OF LESSONS FROM THIS STORY, IT REMINDS ME OF THE ARTICLE WRITTEN BY GENEVA .R.HICKS (01/29/02) ---THE SORE TONGUE SYNDROME(I have a printed copy stuck by my study table as a reminder)
I believe that, one of the greatest tools of the enemy apart from fear is ANGER, I know in one way or the other, we all are battling with this STRONGHOLD, the degree may vary from individual to individual but the damage done to others and even the one who displays this character trait is the same and oftentimes irreparable:
Moses in the Bible, missed seeing and experiencing God’s Glory in the Promised Land because of ANGER (Exodus 32:19-20) The whole of this story can be read in the book of Exodus 32:1-35 despite the fact that Moses pleaded with God on behalf of the children of Israel for leniency, when he beheld the sin in action, he blew his top even more than God could have done!
Further in Numbers 20:10-11(read the whole story in Numbers 20), we see once more a display of Moses raw anger, despite the fact that most of us will say these people deserved severe punishment because they were truly stiff-necked
When we take a critical eye to check the big log in our individual eyes rather than the speck in our neighbor’s, we shall see why the potter has the necessary tool to help us to keep shaving off the ugly pieces that have remained stuck to and do not allow the pottery to come out in the beautiful shape which he designed it for in the beginning
Have you ever said, `Oh, I forgive him or I forgive her especially because God says so and you want to please Him in obedience.
At the time, you could actually mean it, but when you come, face-to-face with the situation or individual in question, the story changes because your stomach recoils and bile and blood begin to mix together at the remembrance of the hurt´
How can I get over this you ask?
God alone through the Holy Spirit can help you mount and overcome this hurdle, trying alone in your human intellect and strength will always fail
Step 1: agree within yourself and confess it out loud that you have the problem of ANGER
Step 2: Ask the Lord to intervene and acknowledge your weakness and inability to stop being angry at the least provocation or always jumping to conclusions and seeing only the negative in anything that is spoken to you
Step 3: PRAY WITHOUT CEASING! We all know how to quote this piece of scripture but we do not know the depth of it, indeed it is true that you must keep praying until you see a change in that situation, it might take a day for some or years in another situation but keep praying and reminding God that you mean it
Step 4: be patient with the Almighty, He is ALL wise, if you do not receive an answer immediately; it is because He has a set plan for your life, also know that his way is the best way
Step 5: Do not expect your ANSWER to prayer to come in the form of jack or Jill’s,whilst seeking God for a solution you most likely would meet certain individuals whose major preoccupation will be to always try to make you angry it seems or always do something or the other to provoke you top anger, even in the Church!
A great minister of God once described this as DIVINE PRESRIPTION and that they vary from person to person just like miracles are, but you must be available to discern your prescription for your particular situation i.e. ,Naaman the army commander and general, but a renowned leper was told, go and wash in the Jordan seven times , Jesus takes mud, mixes it with His spittle and puts it on blind eyes to give healing, Jesus speaks the word, `Go, thy sins are forgiven thee´, Jesus asks, will thou be made whole?´, Jesus says, this one does not go away except by prayer and fasting,
Elijah spread himself three times upon the Widow of Zarephath´s son (1 Kings 17:18-24) who had taken ill and died after she was so kind to him, he grieved before God for the child’s life to be returned and it was so, Elisa sent his servant with his staff to the Shunammite woman whose son had died to revive the child, but Elisa had to go there by himself before the boy was eventually revived (1 Kings 4:25-36), the poor widow
Was told to gather as many empty vessels as she could lay her hands upon Check 2 Kings 4:3-7,afterwards she never lacked again.
Timing and method vary with God in response to our prayers as we come to know from His word, also our readiness for the answer or healing matter a great deal
Step 6: Be appreciative when you eventually receive your answer to prayer and see your new self in action (and remember not the old self) by this I mean; sound familiar ? When provoked, you say in a loud voice or an angry tone
`If it was not for Christianity and God I know what I could have done to you! ´ or I will remove my pious garment, deal with you thoroughly and put it back on afterwards!
Do not assume that I am a fool because I am a Christian?!
Do not take my Christianity for stupidity because I will show you what stuff I am made of!
And so on and so forth!
There are so many examples in the Bible to show that we are more at peace than even him that we forgive when we have been at the receiving end of anger or a nasty word spoken and we also please God and our answers to prayer are not hindered when we learn the art of forgiving
It is a gradual process do not be hard on yourself let go and let God take you through the process
Receive strength, encouragement and instruction from the following scriptures:
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