This is not a message of condemnation, nor one of hitting someone when they are down
However, this is a message of truth, and Jesus Christ is the truth, and He says that He hates divorce
Nevertheless, this is not the first so-called Christian couple that has decided to go this route, nor will they be the last.
But the issue that must be looked at is this;
Are Paula and Randy White a Christian couple that got caught up in an unfortunate circumstance, with biblical grounds for divorce, that we should be diligently praying for?
Or are Paula and Randy White a Christian couple that got caught up in an unfortunate circumstances, with unbiblical grounds for divorce, that we should be diligently praying for?
Or are Paula and Randy White not truly Christians, and have deceived many for years (including themselves), and have been planted by the evil one to lead many astray in the church because of the positions they hold, in regards to divorce with a irreconceivable differences account.
Frank Sinatra sung a song entitled, 'My Way', with the chorus, 'I did it my way'. This is not the testimony that the church should hold, nor should we sing the tune of, 'I did it their way', referring to the world.
It is the world that is divorcing at a record rate with the irreconceivable differences clause. The body of Christ should not be holding to this clause. It is a cop out and a poor testimony, especially for someone in leadership.
I got divorced in 2001 because of my ex-wife's infidelity. At the time, I had biblical grounds for divorce, to include her unrepentant heart or actions, even though I wasn't a Christian at the time.
However, if I were able to turn back the hands of time, I wish it had never occurred, due to the emotional and financial pain it caused both parties, and my children. And for me to see couples so callously throw in the towel grieves my spirit, especially when it comes from someone who claims to love Christ.
My prayer is that a public restoration comes to fruition for the glory of God, for their testimonies, and for an encouragement for those who are also looking at throwing in the towel.
I think that part of the problem is that too many Christians have been led to believe that if you have a "Christian" marriage it is almost guaranteed to be better, so as a result, the two partners don't feel the need to work at it as much.
Christian marriages can have some of the same problems as non-Christian ones, like for example, money problems, not knowing how to communicate, or taking past unresolved emotional baggage into the marriage.
Although I am saddened to hear about this relationship, it does not surprise me, when the statistics show that 40% of even "professing Christian" marriages are ending in divorce.
JOHN LIVINGSTON CLARK.
author of GOD'S HEALING HOPE: BREAKING THE STRONGHOLDS OF WRONG THINKING
I understand your article very well because I am a born again christian and after 13 years of marriage which include four chlidren. We are not happy with each other and he told that he doesn't care about me or the children. Your youngest is eleven and at first I felt so bad for agreeing to the divorce but now I think it is for the best.I am putting everything in God's hands.
I was not aware of the situation with Paula and Randy, although I have noticed that he has not been in the picture (while on tv) for some time, and just a few days ago was wondering, and now I know. Yes, it is very sad.
The only thing I can say is this is just another reason for us to not put Christian couples who are in the spotlight...high upon a pedestal. They are human, and not above temptation. Our eyes must stay fixed on Jesus Christ, and him, alone.