Has someone ever told you that they loved you and you ended up breaking up? I ask you now to look back over the relationship. Before that person told you that they loved you how far physically had you gone? How slowly had you progressed? In hein sight when you think about it did you go faster and do more then you wanted to after they said those three not so simple words?
When someone says I Love You it changes your whole out look your whole mindset. The way you see the situation changes so dramatically its scary. Those three words can make or break you. They can lift you up or tear you down. You get a longing a desire an urge for something unrealistic. You gain a security in someone. You put more trust in them, and as a result you end up wounded. Is it really worth all that? I donít believe so. The human heart is far to precious, far to fragile to be thrown around like that.
Have you noticed that the words I love you melt your defenses? Everything you once believed becomes a blur. Saying those words is like saying I Do without a contract, without commitment. Therefore it makes it harder if and when you break up.
In all languages known to man these words are the most abused words spoken or in some cultures unspoken. So often they harm more then they help. Now donít get me wrong at the right time in the right situation like parent to child, child to parent, brother to sister, sister to brother, sister to sister, brother to brother, Husband to wife, Wife to husband, God to man, and man to God they can be the most uplifting words ever spoken. In these they can be so very freeing.
Sometimes when someone says these words, I love you it makes your heart skip a beat. You get this feeling, this sensation go through you. Not long after hearing these words, I love you we often do things and go places that before we had classed off limits. Itís a scary though really three small words I Love You can often make you more venerable then most physical injures while they have the ability to cripple the body and some even the mind these three words I Love You used out of context when you donít really love someone, or when you only think you do, can cripple the heart and scare the soul.
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