One of the biggest fears in life for most is rejection. The fear of being rejected by someone who WE have put our heart into their hands. Someone who we have at least been willing to share our hearts with. When this person turns around and tramples on our hearts it hurts to the core. We wonder how could they do this? Most of the time the answer is we let them. Sometimes we set our hearts on someones or an image in our heads and nobody comes along. Some of us through desperation found someone and we are still miserable! It is the aftermath of rejection I am talking about today. Most choose to become bitter after. Very sour we become to everyone around us.
We view the world through the lens of a damaged eye. Sometimes it's a husband, wife, friend, or family that has misused, abused, and rejected us. But without God it is vitually impossible to heal from it all. With God we will heal and become whole. It is us who must forgive ourselves. We must stop reliving it over and over in our heads. We will become new. I say we, because all of us have been rejected at one time or another. When we learn to put our faith in Jesus and His Will; we make less mistakes in our judgement. We thought we saw a night in shining armor, a beautiful Queen that made our day bright, but is that what it really was or what we were hoping to see? Were we in our right mind or in the flesh? Were we letting God direct us or were we ignoring the advice of everyone because we only wanted to believe our fantasy.
If it is true love it will last. If it is true love it wil survive the hard times of difficulty. True love is the love The Father showed when He gave His Son for the world. When we emulate this love and live the example set by Jesus Christ we show everyone around us what true love is. Whether it is our wife, husband, friend, family, or stranger. We also know what true love feels like, looks like, and acts like through the example of Jesus. So when we see someone coming we recognize right away if the tree is producing good fruit or rotten fruit. Because rotten fruit looks good on the outside, but inside is full of worms and death.
I write this as an encouragement to some, a warning to others, and a rebuke to the worm posing as good fruit. But in the end we find Jesus didnt come and leave His example for us just to rule all women out as negative, or all men out as negative! He showed us how we should and could live through Him and In Him. Being bitter isn't the way to solve the problem of being misused, abused, or rejected. Neither is lumping everyone into one category. It is only through The Holy Spirit one can be healed and delivered from the hurt and pain. True love in a person won't hold grudges. You will forgive and forget and even pray for the person. This is what all who call themselves Christians should do. Jesus Lived this way. We ought to make it an honest prayer to be more like Him. It doesn't happen overnight, but through the power of The Holy Spirit a change Will take place.
Wow. Just wow. If I didn't know better, I'd think you drove up and knocked on my front door this very day (as it did seem so personal) and said to me "Aren't ya glad you don't have to be bitter?" :::smile::: Thank you, Jared. This spoke volumes to me and I love you all the more for sharing it. It's been a long hard road of healing and recovery, but oh, I know beyond a shadow of doubt that yesterday is gone, that I'm a new creature, and that GOD IS GOOD! I sure hope I'm setting a good example of lasting fruit, holy fruit, and that there isn't a worm in all the earth that can mess with it, because there is nothing I desire more than my First Love. How you've blessed me today!!!