With tears flowing down her cheeks she began, “My husband has given me an ultimatum. Either I quit the ministry, or He will quit the marriage. I have thought about this and I don‘t want to put my family through anymore. I feel I am pushing my husband farther away from the Lord, so I need to step down”
Kathy was a hard worker. She not only ministered to the youth but she also worked on their dairy farm and was raising three teenage and younger sons. We had been partners in ministry for most of the years that I had been there. In fact, Katthy was teaching elementary even before I started as the director.
My heart went out to her as she explained her family situation and her husbands feelings about her service to God and the youth. It was evident that she had become emotionally exhausted in the conflict and needed the break.
I tried to wrap my mind around her situation. In fact, there are several women in our church who attend and participate in service to the Lord on their own without the support of their husband. This too, I try to wrap my mind around.
I have been blessed to be married to a godly man who loves me and supports me because of my desire to serve the Lord. To imagine him giving me an ultimatum between him and the Lord is unthinkable. I was fortunate to have fallen in love with Jesus before falling in love with my husband. Jesus is my first love. Even before my husband and I were married, I made it clear that I was a woman who served the Lord.
I love my husband very much, but still, I could not have made the decision that Kathy made. My husband would have lost that ultimatum and I ponder, is that right or wrong, Lord?