Is it any wonder why adultery was one of the reasons that could be used as an out for marriage. Is it any wonder why Jesus saw adultery as a justified out to throw in the towel for a marriage. It is because of the damage done, as well as the damage to come.
The trust was broken. The physical intimacy has been impaired. The bond of friendship has been broken. In some cases, reputations have been damaged. Emotional damage has been done to both the innocent party as well as the children. In some cases, the couple's savings has been spent in places and on persons that it shouldn't have been. In some cases, two families were destroyed because both cheating participants were both married. In some cases, jobs were lost because of lack of moral integrity. In some cases, there were physical confrontations between the innocent party and the outside cheating party. In some cases, sexually transmitted diseases were left behind. In some cases, unplanned pregnancies were produced. All of this to the evil one's delight.
Nevertheless, the evil one is not finished. For those marriages that are able to survive this ordeal, the evil one continues to plant those images. Those images in the mind of the innocent party of his/her spouse having intimate relations with another party. Those images eat at their hearts, bringing about all sorts of destructive feelings and emotions. This is not to say that the person has not forgiven his/her spouse, but this is to say that the evil one will continue to attack the innocent partyís mind with these images, in the hopes of destroying all hope for restoration in this marriage.
Now you who may have become hardened in this area and believe that after your brief rendezvous with your mistress that you will be able to bounce back into your marriage as if nothing had occurred, beware. You are playing with a fire, a fire that you will have no control over. A fire that you will not be able to put out at will. A fire that will bring death. Death of marriage, death of financial stability, and in some cases death of physical man.
I do not speak of things that I have heard. I do not speak of things that I have seen. I speak of things that I have experienced. It is for many of these things that were broken as well as those images that plagued me, that I divorced my wife of 10 years.
Now what the evil one and man meant for evil, the Lord allowed, for the good that was to come through it. The evil one, not all knowing, did not know that the fall of my marriage would not bring the death and destruction that he sought, but through the grace of God it brought across my conversion as a Christian. Praise the Lord. As I was being led, by the inspiring of the evil one to seek revenge on those who played a role in bringing this trespass to my family, the God of Israel stopped me in my tracks and revealed himself to me. This conversion soon followed with the conversion of my daughters. Praise the Lord. As the evil oneís plan backfired, it is a testimony to the glory of the Lord.
Nevertheless, not every story of adultery ends in this same manner. All over the nation, we hear of many people who are acting out the ultimate revenge on their spouses and those that were involved in the demise of their marriages.
Now you, who continue to entertain this adulterous relationship, you who continue to embrace the bosom of another manís wife, you who continue to place a knife through the joy of your own wifeís heart, your ways are in full view of the Lord. You are at His mercy, but keep in mind, He is just and will reward you according to what you have done.
You have addressed a very difficult and sorrowful problem in today's society. Satan's power is still very strong in our world and we need to stay in God's word to keep our focus on Him. Thanks for dealing with a topic that seems to be "sugar-coated" by so many people. I really enjoyed it.