Our relationship with other people is no small matter. It’s a big deal; bigger than what we may make of it. In fact, it comes a close second to our relationship and fellowship with God. Although we may not possibly develop close fellowship with as many people as we would like to, we do well by relating well to all the people we meet.
It’s perfectly alright if we just can’t click-on in close fellowship with some people, and vice versa. Such a phenomenon is neither a sin nor a crime. But, we certainly need to relate well to other people who, just like us, are made in the image of God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit. After all, besides God, who else can understand and relate to us if not for people in our life?
When we face a crisis, aside from God, we can turn to people whom we know would care for us and lend us, at the very least, a listening ear. They would seek first to understand rather than bombard us immediately with a spiritual checklist or offer a torrent of actions to take. Once we sense their empathy of our plight and/or predicament, we will be more open to their advice and help in due course. (Yes, there are people who really care for us. Look out for their needs also and seek to be a blessing to them, as well.)
As believers, we are accustomed to the times and seasons when we have been sustained by the prayers of fellow believers; riding on the wings of prayer (and praise). Their prayers, which rise as incense to God, were not in vain. Isn’t it comforting to know that we have a God who is for us as well as people who are charitable towards us?
In a sense, our success in life depends on good relationship, amongst other things. The one life of Jesus Christ changed history. He had a vision to fulfil God’s call for the redemption of all people with an obedient lifestyle and the anointing of the Holy Spirit. He also chose a motley group of followers who formed His dream team. Likewise, we need co-workers / co-labourers in our ministry work, business, and our other enterprise / endeavours in life.
Our vision and dream may well require the collaboration and input from others. We need to grow in favour not only with God but also with men just as “JESUS grew in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and all the people” (Luke 2:52, NLT).
As we do what is good (e.g. sow good relationships) we can expect to reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up. “Therefore, whenever we have the opportunity, we should do good to everyone – especially to those in the family of faith” (Gal. 6:10, NLT).
Here are just some suggestions for us to refresh our approach to relationships:
* Pray ahead for God’s anointing to relate well to people at the start of each day
* Ask the pertinent question(s) which helps to draw the other person out
* Say the needful thing
* Listen attentively (with interest; no need to fake it)
* Seek to be a channel or instrument of God’s blessing