‘WILL true love ever come?’ is a commonplace question for those who yearn for, but have yet to find a soul-mate. Humanly-speaking, that is, as some people could well be contented being ‘married’ to their television, MTV, cat, travel, adventure, history, music, architecture, or some other pursuits, without any desire for a life partner.
The direct answer to the aforesaid question is found in John 3:16 (NKJV): “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.” Without any doubt, JESUS is the Lover of our soul who has come -- “that the world though Him might be saved” (John 3:17b; NKJV). We need to constantly remind ourselves that God has wrought so great a Salvation for us that He is all that we need. In Him we have all sufficiency, and we need to learn how to be a cheerful giver to the ministry of God’s kingdom. “And God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work” (2 Corinthians 9:8; NKJV).
As the redeemed of the Lord, we, the church, are His bride. Now is the time of our preparation in anticipation of His coming again, in glory and power. While it is still day, that is, while there is still time, we need to mortify our flesh, prosper our soul in the Lord, and be led by the Holy Spirit so that we will have oil in our lamps when the Bridegroom comes. By remaining on a standby mode constantly, the Lord’s coming as a thief in the night or at the twinkling of an eye will not catch us off-guard. We will be so enjoined with Christ in marriage then that it will transcend and exceed by far our understanding of marriage on earth; “For in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels of God in heaven” (Matthew 22:30; NKJV).
Our heavenly marriage with the LORD remains a mystery for now, but it will rest assuredly be good -- coming from the God, the Father of us all and Lover of our souls. As for our covenant of marriage instituted here on earth, it is but a shadow and type of what is to come. Nonetheless, it is important that, unless we are called to a life of celibacy, we prepare ourselves for marriage so that God’s best for us can be realised for His glory.
It seems politically correct to say that you can only marry someone whom you have met or, conversely, that you will not be able to marry someone whom you have not met before. This was, however, not the case for Isaac -- God’s promised son to Abraham and Sarah. Abraham, in his old age, tasked his most senior and trusted servant to go to the city of Nahor in Mesopotamia to obtain a bride for Isaac. With confidence in God, Abraham told the servant that, “He (The LORD God of heaven) will send His angel before you, and you shall take a wife for my son from there” (Genesis 24:7b). The servant prayed to God for success, and found Rebecca as the bride for Isaac. As servants of God, we have a part to play (prayerfully) in helping our fellows to find a suitable life partner. Let God in on Mission Possible (and leave Mission Impossible for Tom Cruise to grapple with).
Rebecca was “very beautiful to behold, a virgin” (Genesis 24:16a). True beauty is more than outward appearance. It has to do with inner beauty and purity which comes from inside out; you can’t fake it for long as it will be seen in one’s attitude, manner of speech, and actions. At the servant’s request, Rebecca not only gave him a drink but also offered to draw water for all his ten camels. She passed the test. The beauty of your character will place you in good stead before marriage scouts. Groom yourself inside-out and outside-in so that you will be very beautiful to behold.
For you men out there, your character will also put you in good stead. For example, we see in Exodus 2:17 Moses’ courage, righteousness, good heartedness, and helpfulness where he drove away the shepherds who were harassing Jethro’s daughters and helped them watered their flock. “Then Moses was content to live with the man, and he gave Zipporah his daughter to Moses” (Exodus 2:21; NKJV).
For more details of our character in Christ, apostle Paul says, “… put on tender mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long-suffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. And let the peace of God rule in our hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. And whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him” (Colossians 3:12-17; NKJV).
So, to all who aspire to get married, now is the time of preparation before the day of fulfilment. Groom yourself well through and through, and get ready for your day of divine appointment or opportunity. Be full of the light of Christ in you, and let light attract another who is full of His light. Meanwhile, remain faithful in what you are doing for the LORD. He will reward you in due season.
In the twinkling of your eye, God will make marriage happen for you as you keep walking with Him. Get ready. Stay prepared. Keep moving forward. Keep walking. Hasn’t Jesus said that, “... but with God all things are possible” (Matthew 19:26b; NKJV)?