Most people have come to the realization that they need to show appreciation to those persons they love while they are around or while they themselves are around, that is in their life time. It is with this realization that I want to document my appreciation of my son, my only offspring. Face to face with a member of our family leaves us with little thought of going to the depths of our being to say the really meaningful things. Sometimes, we feel embarrassed or we think the other may be embarrassed and a hasty affirmation of our efforts may stultify our attempts.
In the grand scheme of things, nature has endowed parents, especially mothers, to see their newborn as beautiful. I was no exception. I expected to see a mewling, sleeping infant, and to my surprise there was this adorable face looking at me with intelligent, knowing eyes. I called his name and he looked at me as if ready to hear what I had to say. I just knew there was no mistake; he was truly mine. There was that instant recognition that God had given me a precious gift.
His father, who during my pregnancy wanted a girl, since he was one of a family of four boys and no girls, forgot his previous preference. He delighted in this son of his. There was nothing he wouldn’t do for the baby. He would get up at night to get things for him, to save me the trouble of getting out of bed. He would bring the baby over to me for feeding and was really pleased at his new role of parenthood. There was never any mention of a daughter after Noel was born.
I watched this little precious gift grow and wanted to teach him so many things. When he cooed like the pigeons outside, I began to talk to him. By the time he was two, he was carrying on serious conversations with adults. I would read him nursery rhymes and he would ask me to read them again. I realized he liked the sounds he was hearing and I would read them again. I introduced him to books at an early age, which was a good thing. He was really good at athletics and this and games he created for himself competed for his attention to reading.
There were many anxious moments as boys will be boys and his adventures had me running to the hospital on a few occasions to have stitches for wounds to his head and to the chemist for a bump to his forehead as large as a melon. On two occasions I didn’t see him come home after school. It was frightening, not knowing where one’s five-year old and later one’s six-year old was. At five the person who should have picked him up forgot and at six he just thought it was all right to go home with one of his friends.
Most of us learn from our experiences. I learnt a lot from Noel. Out of the mouth of ‘babes and sucklings’ precious gems of wisdom come to us. These little pearls of insight came at the most unexpected moments and I would be amazed at the clarity with which he was seeing his mother. I was able to see myself in a different light, to understand that his revelations were not criticisms, but the truth as his young mind saw it. This was so beneficial to me that I began to change gradually in manner and thought. He was mainly responsible for my change of outlook to positive thinking. Whenever I said anything that he perceived to be negative about myself, he would immediately show me all the good things I had done, all the marvelous things I was responsible for and all the wisdom he thought I possessed. This was so good for my morale that I moved from condemning myself to praising myself. In his eyes I did no wrong. What a wonderful son! I prayed for him when he was young and while he was growing up. Now I thank God for this blessing he has bestowed on me. His wife is a very dear person and she has become the daughter I never had. I thank God for her too.
“All things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to His purpose.”
The King James Version of Proverbs 18:24 says, "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly..." By that token, you must have a lot of friends, because it is evident that you demonstrate friendliness, not only in posting positive comments for articles, but in this article and others, your gracious complimentary personality seems very evident. You are also Theophilus--"friend of God."