My mother, My Enemy, is at this moment driving me into exile. I’m being banished for a month; sent to live with my cold fish married sister, grounded from the Internet and the phone. The injustice is that my only sin was to fall in love. A few months ago I made a new friend in church. Laura is a normal 16-year-old with friends and cute clothes and Theater class and everything I ever wanted. I never had any life except Church and Homeschooling. She opened a whole new world for me. She lived close and we could hang out together which is how I met my secret boyfriend. We couldn’t really date, but we Instant Messaged and talked on the phone. We even met at the movies and held hands. Unfortunately that wasn’t enough for him. I found out he hooked up with another girl and it was too hard to pretend nothing was wrong. Mother noticed I was upset and asked me why I was crying. I couldn’t help it; I broke down and told her. She was furious. All she cares about is keeping her pure, virgin daughter safe from the big bad world. Why couldn’t she just hold me? I needed her so much. How can there be a rule against falling in love?” What can I do now? I thought I would have a real life, a normal teenagers life. But now there is only despair and pain. My friend's mother said to watch for what God would do or teach in this time of suffering and try to remember that my mom is suffering too since Daddy left. She said, "This is not all there is." She said, "You can't have a testimony without a test." I hope she's right but I can't think about that now. I just needed Mother to love me.
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I'm sure your mother does love you, or she wouldn't care what you do. :)I do understand your feelings, but it's important to know that your mom is likely just doing the best she can to take good care of you. It would be a lot easier for her to let you do whatever you want, but she obviously loves you too much to do that. Try to look at it from her perspective -- she may feel betrayed since you did things behind her back. Consider how you might feel if you found that your mom was lying to you -- that is probably how she feels right about now. Although you may not understand it, know that your mom must love you an awful lot!