Nothing parents can give their child is more important to the child’s well-being than the assurance that he is loved. And nothing can make a child more secure in his parents’ love than for a child to see that love expressed and demonstrated in the home.
Most parents make sure their children have plenty of food, shelter, and clothing. They care for their children when they are sick, provide the proper training and discipline, and try to meet all of their children’s material needs. Sometimes as parents we think it should be obvious to our children that we love them. However, material provisions can never take the place of demonstrations of love such as affectionate hugs, telling your children you love them, and other expressions of caring and tenderness.
A child who never sees demonstrations of love from his parents may be hindered from learning how to give and to receive love properly. That can cause a child to experience difficulty in future relationships, including marriage.
As children grow older, parents sometimes become more hesitant to openly show them affection. However, parents are rarely hesitant about expressing disapproval of their children’s shortcomings! Such inconsistent behaviour is one reason many parents have difficulty relating to their children when they reach adolescence.
The parent–child relationship can remain strong and close throughout a child’s development if parents will make an effort to continue nurture the warm and loving interaction they had with their children when they were young.
For example, when your children are young you can cultivate the habit of praying with them at bedtime and tell them you love them and you are proud of them. Encourage them and let them know that with God as their source and guide, there’s nothing they can’t overcome and accomplish in life. Continue to tell them this as they grow into adulthood. Those words will become implanted in their hearts and will positively affect their entire lives.
Your love and encouragement will help sustain your children emotionally and spiritually and will give them a solid foundation from which they can grow into confident, mature adults who know how to love and trust God and others.
Your example of sowing seeds of love into your family will help your children learn to be more loving and responsible adults and the good news is that both you and your children will derive much joy over the years from the strong and fulfilling relationship you have formed with them.
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