I am sad today. One of my brothers is getting a divorce, his marriage falling victim to the seemingly insurmountable weight of the death of a child. I've heard that this is one of the hardest obstacles a marriage can face--I guess it is true.
I look at my own marriage, at the things my husband and I have been forced to deal with. How did we deal with them? Only with the grace of God. I believe we are old enough to know that, as in any area of life, marriage has a certain flow to it. You have to have the commitment firmly in place at all times. Sometimes things run smoothly, sometimes they don't. Sometimes we like each other, many times we don't. Often we have been through periods of really, really disliking one another. Yet, through all these mixed emotions, we continued to love one another. I know my husband--he knows me. We have faced many things as a team, bound by the love we feel, only to go home and question each other. With each question, we learn to know each other more fully.
Every marriage, no matter how perfect, is destined to those days when you look across the room at your lifemate, and think, 'What have I done? Why am I married to that person? Who is that stranger over there?'
Yet, there you are. You're married. Supposedly forever. Will you honor your vows, no matter what? Will you stick with it, stay with that person who sometimes drives you crazy?
If you are not physically in danger, if indeed, the worst you can claim is apathy, then I say, stay. Stick with it. God has a plan for you, for your husband, for your marriage. Pray through the tough times, and be thankful that you have a marriage at all.
The best is yet to come. Just as iron is tested in a fire, so will your marriage be. I've seen God do miraculous things with many marriages when people just absolutely refuse any options that don't involve staying together.
Thank God for your marriage. Pray for your spouse. Gird yourself for the rough spots.
You are married to that person for a reason. Stay long enough to find out why.
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