Young adults, dating and irreversible decisions . . .
The attraction between young men and women should be brought under control early in a couples relationship. A lasting relationship can not be built on that attraction. If you cannot control yourself now, what will you do when one of you becomes ill or separated for any length of time. Wait. . . do not give in to your passions for each other, flee from that fire, do not give fuel to that fire. (If you do it will consume you.) Wait, fast and pray . . . Think of your future, your reputation and your Heavenly Father’s command to flee fornication.
Turn off your loins and use your mind to bring your heart and body under control. Do not allow your eyes to wonder.
Do not date a person who you would not marry. When you date, group date, stay with a group and do not be alone together; this will protect your reputation and avoid any appearance of evil. (If you are never alone with anyone there will be no fuel for rumors that would destroy your good name.)
Have respect and love for one another.
Young men if you love a woman you will not allow yourself to do anything that could harm her spiritually, emotionally or physically.
Think of the future. Not just tomorrow, next week or next month. Use forethought and project your planning ten, twenty, thirty years. . . Your adult life is just beginning. The course you set now will determine were you will be decades from now.
Stay with a group of Christians. Stay with those who love you, talk to your parents, draw on their wisdom and experience. They have been through what you are and will go through. They can help you as you ready yourself for the future.
You are becoming legal adults, having reached and reaching the age of accountability, responsible for your own actions, able to draw your own conclusions. You should seek the council of your parents and elders. They love you and want your lasting well being to be secured for you and future generations.
Do not sign any legal document without waiting at least 24 hours and again seek the advice of your parents and/or elders. If you can not take it home and study it with your parents. . . and think about it for a few weeks. There is a problem and the persons who want you to sign your name are most likely trying to fill their pockets at your expense. Don’t be a fool seek council. It could save you years of heartache. When you are18 you are fair game to those who can, if you are not carful take advantage of your nativity.
“Don’t borrow money and don’t buy a new car. Look toward the future.” is all good advice but the best advice I can give you is to “Look to the word of God for spiritual guidance.”
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