There are no quick fixes in life. What works is that you learn to understand yourself and your life. Absorb the truths about you and your life. It is you that has to live with it. You and your life that is. You must be willing to commit to the changes and put forth the time and effort as you would in any commitment that is worth it. And aren't you worth it?
2. Put the principles into practice.
Merely understanding what went wrong in your life is only part of being able to improve your self-esteem. You must also apply the principles to your life in order to notice improved changes. It is up to you to apply these principles and make them work for you. Results depend on the effort you give to it. you set your pwn pace.Only you will know when you feel emotionally healed and have gained your self-worth back.
3. Be totally honest with yourself.
We all have hidden or surfaced truths about ourselves that are less than flattering. It is only when you face them that you can change them. Ignoring these truths will not make them untrue or go away or not exist. Unless you are willing to admit something is wrong or out of place in your life, you will not begin to try to fix it.
4. Be open to new ideas and concepts.
You may feel that you are so stuck in your own rut that giving up on soe of your ideas or thoughts that you've owned, probably all of your life, is like being unfaithful to your true self. In a sense I can see where you might think so. I too felt that way at first. But quite honestly, it's just the opposite. Once you open your heart and mind to the idea that some of these are, or were once painful beliefs, and you learn to let them go, you will be more relieved rather than feel grief or contempt. To improve your quality of life you must be open to concepts that will help you to be free from old ideas, thoughts and patterns. Never assume you know the truth. Always keep an open mind and the real truth will come through.
5.) Intellectual knowing VS Practical knowing.
Mental acceptance of a self-truth is not the same thing as believing it. Many times you accept ideas because they seem logical. You experience them on an intellectual level. Often you fail to apply them to your every day life. While logic and intellect are important in life, unless you practice whatever the 'logical belief' is in every day life, it is not a truth or belief that hones in on your true self. Instead it may be a mistaken belief or some belief your parents or whoever raised you, spoon-fed you since birth. Logic tells you to own it and believe it because it must be so, your parents spoke it as the gospel truth. Before totally dimissing the belief or truth, ask yourself if you truly believe it or were you forced to own it. If you do believe it, then move on to another belief. It is upon becoming more practical in knowing do you begin to and ultimately discover the true you.
6. Be willing to change.
Change? Why change? there is nothing wrong with me! Change is not something that comes easy even when you know it's for the best. Your personality is something that develops over time. Many of your parents did not put in an order and God did not put together your year, make and model fully equipped. You acquire your own likes, dislikes, habits, opinions, beliefs and so forth. The way I see it, change should not be so scary because you are changing even as you are reading this blog. You are changing by the minute, the hour, the day. Given that fact, would you not want to chose desired modifications that improve your quality of life? Without change, progress is not possible and progress is needed to make positive changes from within.
7. Know that non-success does not equal failure.
How many times did you have to do something new over and over until you 'mastered it' in your mind? Success only comes after many non-successes. You learn from your mistakes, ever heard that? By trying and putting forth the effort, you never fail. You find out what works for you and you use it and in that lesson also know what does not work.
Self-esteem is like the pebble in the pond. Begin by making changes in your life and you will notice that effect your changes make for you, for the positive, for your life. Then you will become aware of how your perceptions, attitudes, beliefs and opinions ripple out to other areas of your life and even touching other people in your life; giving you a new found sense of worth.
What you do not only affects you but everyone around you. As you continue to make changes on a deeper level they will begin to radiate out to every aspect of ourself and our life.
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