Blessed Be The Tie That Binds,:Our Mother.
1 Kings 2:13 And Adonijah the son of Haggith came to Bathsheba the mother of Solomon. And she said, Comest thou peaceably? And he said, Peaceably.
C.T. Studd outstanding missionary stated, "Some wish to live within the sound of church or chapel bell; I want to run a rescue shop, within a yard of hell." In today’s world any church in America is for the most part reaching men and women who been even closer than a yard from hell. And with this closeness to the abyss comes baggage, a rail car full of baggage of all sorts. Thank the Lord the blood of Jesus Christ, blots out the sins and restores the person, even mothers who have more than enough baggage to relationship and fellowship in the family of God.
May is the month of ‘Mother’s Day’ and my purpose in this brief article to help mothers who may be unduly burdened with trying the ‘live down’ a few or many things done in days gone by.
This month’s ruminations may help a man or woman who harbors a grudge against your mother for a time of infamy in her life. In churches, prisons and even in coffee shops I have talked with men and women who, though they are mature with children of their own still harbor hatred, contempt and bitterness over sins of their mother.
Solomon is recognized as the wisest man who every lived and his was the most prosperous and peaceable reign of any King in Israel’s history. This is all the more amazing when you read the above verse and make note of the words in bold print.
Yep, it is THAT Bathsheba, the one who had been the wife of Uriah the Hittite. The mother of the wisest man yet produced in human history had been a central figure in the affair of the ages, a torrid affair that involved royal conspiracy, murder, shame on the nation, an attempted cover up, the death of an innocent child and the sternest rebuke of a king by a preacher in the history of the world.
Why bring this up? It is under the blood isn’t it?
I bring it up because God often permits the sins that are forgiven to be mentioned in order for others to know the wideness of his Mercy and the depths of His grace and the intensity of His love.
The downfall of David and Bathsheba and their restoration is fodder for hope in a time such as this. No matter how putrid the mud you may wallow in, when the Lord reaches down in mercy and delivers you, cleans you and decides to use you, you do not have to continue living in the mud wallow in your mind due to false guilt. The blood of Christ removes the guilt and we, as did David and Bathsheba stand before the Lord restored and ready to serve as He directs.
Unlike some ninnies in our day, Solomon bore no ill will toward his mother for the sins of the past. He did not get all bent out of shape when she, in tenderness was finagled by Adonijah to upset the pecking order of the pack concerning the lovely Abishag, the girl spoken of in The Song Of Solomon. In his wisdom he knew his mother meant well.
I know men and women who will not even speak to their mother due to her sins of the ‘past’ or even erratic behavior in the now. For shame!!
I have found it interesting for many years that God used Bathsheba to preserve the Kingdom and that she was used to communicate wise instruction to her illustrious son is a matter of record. The story of Solomon and his mother Bathsheba is a saga of bonding unparalleled until the bond of Mary and Jesus.
Proverbs 31:1 “The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.” Proverbs 31 is believed to be the paean of praise of Solomon to his mother and to be the role to be played by the wise wife and mother. Solomon gave credit to his mother for teaching him about life and about the Lord. Her example strongly influenced this wisest of all men. From her example he knew he needed wisdom for God to effectively rule God’s people Israel.
The very title, ‘mother’ biblically conveys the idea of the person to whom is given the ministry of bonding the family together. Strong’s concordance puts it this way: “A mother as the bond of a family.” Our society would do well to take some of the pressure off of mothers and create avenues for mothers to be mothers. Each generation that is weakened due to the absence of mother from the prime influence in the life of her children is a generation that passes weakness to the next generation rather than strength.
That the American family is discombobulated is too well attested to debate. Why is this so? It should be obvious to all but the willfully blind that the bonding agent is missing. The clue provided by the Lord for the mix we call family is wrapped up in a million other less important things and the family unit missing the agent which bonds, is literally flying apart, not because it is coming unglued, but because it has never been glued.
Our centerpiece for this article, Bathsheba, went from being the wife of a courageous soldier, to a conspirator in a murder plot to a grieving mother, to a forgiven sinner and on to an accomplished women who was honored by the Lord in the lineage of Jesus Christ (Matthew 1:6) to having homage paid to her by her son, the wisest man in the world. That she was the ‘bonding’ agent used of God to cement the kingdom under Solomon is a matter of historical record.
I hope and pray that through simple preaching and teaching the word of God I can be used of God to help mothers to inwardly grasp the important part the Lord places on your shoulders and heart in your role as the bond, the binding force in the life of your children.
Unless some big mouth, like yours truly, told you, you probably would never associate the refined mother of King Lemuel with Bathsheba. Yet here it is, the truth of the scope of the cleansing power of the blood of Christ.
Dear Mother, life is tough and according to the current statistics, a majority of modern mothers have made egregious errors in your personal living, in the raising of children and in failing to find the time to ‘bond’ with the kids. Take hope in the Lord and at whatever the cost may seem to be, make the changes necessary to learn what Bathsheba learned and bond, cement with the children.
Dear people: By all means quit blaming your mother, quit your bitterness toward her and forgive her. If you have forgiven her, forgive her again and again and again. The forgiveness of a person even to 490 times as Jesus taught is often the continued forgiving of sins that keep coming up in memory. Refuse to let these sins, faults of your mother haunt your current life and do as Jesus, forgive her.
From what the Bible tells us, our education system and all healing sciences teach essentially the same line; in order to be whole we must forgive. If the penalty for refusing to forgive an enemy or a neighbor is great, how much greater the enormity of refusal to forgive our own mother for her failure to bond as her title demands? True forgiveness on the part of a child who missed the bonding process due to some fault on mother’s part can find inner peace through forgiveness from the heart.
A good thing to do for Mother’s Day is to call her and ask for forgiveness, and even bestow forgiveness on her. You should check the word “bestow’ and then you will understand. LML
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