I wonder when I learned responsibility? At what age is it the most important to use tough love? Why do some kids excel while others fail? If three children are raised the same, in the same household, but two out of the three are responsible adults while one is a bum? Why is that? Maybe its personality, maybe itís just something missing from their education and/or brain function. What gives us each the drive to excel or at least to take care of ourselves?
How do you teach our children to be an actual adult? At what age is the most critical? Is it from birth or whereís the line between letting children be children and teaching them to be adults? Isnít that what we really are trying to do? Teach our kids to be responsible adult law biding citizens. It really doesnít matter what they choose do, as long as, they can keep a roof over their heads and food in their bellies and be law biding. When a child takes a wrong turn, how do you correct that? Especially when they are adults and not children anymore.
When two out of three children make it, what happens to the third child? You know the people in every family that are known as "the black sheep of the family" we all have them or know of one. He/She becomes a grown up child, but still wants to live at home and be with his or her parents at age 35. At what point do we as parents say enough is enough. I will no longer foot the bill for a grown man or woman. They loose their job because they stayed out all night drinking and partying and couldnít go to work because theyíre too tired. Do we then kick them out or keep a roof over their heads? At what point are we hurting our kids more by letting them stay forever?
What do we do rip out hearts out to make our children understand that sometimes kid-adults need tough love to get straightened out. What happens if your child goes to jail because he canít get it together? On their third DUI, or maybe get caught up in drugs, whatever the case may be. What do you do for your grown children who just donít get it? Is forcing church on them the answer? What will make a difference? It seems to be an ongoing problem in every family. We give our children too easy a ride and they never leave or get their lives in order.
What would Jesus tell us? Pray, Pray, and Pray is the most important thing with a lot of faith mixed in the Lord. What can we as individuals really do without Jesus in our corner? If our children end up in jail maybe thatís what is needed for them to wake up and be adults and take care of their selves. All we can do is give our worries to the lord, he will be their to take the burden off our shoulders. Maybe we do spare the rod and spoil the child. Maybe we just give everything we have to the Lord and trust in him. He is the answer to everything.
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