Condemnation is a debt that can never be satisfied
by Dan Langerock
Imagine yourself trying to pay a ten thousand dollar debt in increments of only ten dollars per month. It could not be done considering the high interest involved. The same is true when condemnation is used on others or ourselves.
Maybe you know someone who appears to forgive you, yet brings up hurts years later when you least expect it? If this is happening to you or you are doing this to others, it needs to stop. Put up appropriate boundaries and keep them. Pray about what to say to this person, and ask for God's peace in your situation.
Let's take a biblical example: In Romans 8:1 the Bible says, "There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus has set me free from the law of sin and death." When you come to God with a repentant heart, His way, He will forgive you and never bring up this transgression again.
Forgiveness in either direction must be final, not bringing up past wounds that belong in the past. Forgivenss is not real if the hurts are constantly wielded like a sword to wound you from time to time. God loves you very much and doesn't want you to wound or be wounded in this manner. The past is gone and can never be recovered. Allow God to heal the hurts of years gone by, for His peace is the only true antidote for a hurt-filled life.