The ultimate career isnít in Silicon Valley. If you think about it, when we have a child it is like applying for a job that will last forever with every year bringing a new job description and changing benefits. Fortunately we donít have to wait for a gold watch to be given to us in some far off forever to experience the rewards. We get those all along the way. Being a mom brings with it a series of moments that become memories. That is why many of us save construction paper covered with crayon art, school photos with crooked bangs, and little white shoes, in special boxes. It is so we can hold them on some lonely future January day and rememberÖ thoughts, feelings, momentsÖand play them over and over in our minds.
We moms probably carry more guilt per capita that any other people group, in the galaxy. We lament over the wrong decisions we have made and how not giving Sammy an opportunity to play pee wee lacrosse may have permanently damaged his fragile psyche. Were we to tough, to lenient, to stoic, too huggy, too loud or too quiet? Did we laugh enough with them or did they see the times we cried. What will they remember? After all our obsessing, it all comes down to one truth. No matter what we have done or neglected to do during our childís lives, we can still be forgiven for the mistakes we made. The tragedy is that so many of us never ask to be. There are cases of abused and neglected children meeting their moms after years of separation. They eagerly wait for the slightest hint that their mother still loves them. Years of mistakes can be forgiven in a single moment, though some mistakes may never be forgotten.
Our family history can affect the way we raise our children. Some people had a great childhood but others have a lot to overcome. We cannot expect to make drastic changes in a single generation. Real lasting changes take time and persistence.
We just have to remember; we canít make our children (turn out) a certain way, we canít be perfect and we canít do it alone. We need family, friends and above all else we need the Lord.
Our kids donít want perfect parents they just want parents who love them and who listen to them even when we donít understand what they are saying. How much time do we waste fearing the future or worrying over current or past mistakes when our child is right in the next room, just a few feet away, and probably needing a hug and a wink. So, put this paper down and go take care of it now. What if your child isnít in the other room but many miles away? Well, Alexander Graham Bell solved that problem years ago. So, forget about past mistakes and just love your child now. Donít worry about future problems just love your child now. The Bible says that we should let tomorrow take care of itselfÖgood advice.
Thank you for sharing this. I already had all of the same ideas about what our children need most,and about how important it is that we show them our love, because they grow up so fast, but I needed to read it from you tonight.