What do you believe about this statement: "Many things begin in the spiritual realm of your life?" This can include major illnesses and attitudes among other things. Let's take a couple of examples and examine this idea.
You have been hurt by someone and are very upset about what has happened. However, instead of letting it go through forgiveness right away, you nurse the wound by telling all your friends what happened to you. You allow the situation to replay over and over in your mind until the incident consumes your thinking.
At this point, bitterness is taking root i
n your life, and you are allowing it to be watered by the way you are nursing it along. Since you told so many people about it, even if you did forgive this person, they would be always bringing up the subject making you hurt all over again with the memory.
Over the years you keep this grudge alive in different ways. You develop high blood pressure and other maladies due to the stress you have put yourself under all these years. You consume five or more kinds of medicine a day to keep your body going. You know what the trouble is, but you just won't let go of that grudge.
Your relationships with your children and others are in shambles. You are irritable a lot of the time and nothing seems to please you. You know what is wrong but you refuse to do something about it.
In the second example, you are experiencing the same type of hurt, but this time you are getting harder and harder because of this grudge. You have taken it beyond just not being able to get along with you to divorce and estrangement from your family. You don't even know where your family is, and you are all alone except for a few friends. You are ill, but there is no one to call and even if you could call them, they probably wouldn't come.
Hurts like these can make you spiritually restless, always seeking something that is just beyond your grasp. Hurts unresolved, color the rest of your life in ways that are ugly and distasteful, but you may not recognize them as such. You may think it's normal to feel this way. They can make you distrustful of God who wants you help you, not hurt you.
These are not ways that God would have you run and ruin your life. He loves you, and wants you to have a good life but you have chosen to follow your own will in this matter of the grudge. He created you with that free will which was a big risk for him, if you think about it. You knew you should have banished that anger as soon as possible before it could take root in your life, but you didn't.
God knows that we have hurts from the life that we live. But He will not force you to come to Him for help with them. By the time we realize we need His help, it can be too late sometimes. Hurts, taken to the extreme, can alienate you from those who love you and leave you a lonely, bitter person. Is this what you want for the end of your life or do you want it to be rich and full of love. It all begins with a choice to relinquish that hurt and let God help you with it.
The Bible tells us many things about anger and its by-products, one of which is "don't let the sun go down on your wrath". In other words, get rid of anger before it controls your life and hurts you even more.
The problem is, we as humans think we have all the answers, when we don't. We are too proud or whatever to come to God and ask for His help and comfort. He has the prescription that works, but we often don't want to take that medicine. God's peace is available for the asking, and it is free. You don't have to go through the problem alone unless you want to. What have you let rule your life: hate, bitterness, resentment---or love and peace? What you answer will help determine the condition of the rest of your life.
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