Was there ever a time that you wished you never uttered what you said? Have you ever blown your top so much that it turned you into a monster? I have experienced this quite a number of times.
Anger, yes how that 5 letter word can get the better part of you. I donít like myself when I am angry. I have experienced hurting ones feelings because of not being able to control my anger, and later on regretting what I did.
How I wish I could turn back the hands of time and erase what I said. How I wish I just bit my tongue at that moment
Itís quite difficult at times to control your anger especially if the other person may have provoked you to get angry. There is such a thing as managing your emotions.
We are all human beings and vulnerable to get hurt. Harsh words may damage the heart and take long to heal. A foul temper could wound ones spirit. Words are more powerful then actions when used in a negative way and it could deplete your energy level and lower ones self-esteem.
So many hearts have been wounded for a fiery tongue. I agree that we have to release our so called anger but there may be other avenues to release it. I have incorporated this system in my anger network. Though how difficult it could be I try hard to fulfill it.
One system is by breathing deeply for it changes the tension you are in and has a calming effect.
Another way is by just taking some quiet space before you plan on speaking with the person. This gives you ample time to examine what went wrong and what remedy could be done.
Itís difficult if two people are angry at one time, fire against fire never works, you need some ice.
One step I take is writing down continuously in my journal all the anger I carry inside and reading it afterwards. Youíll realize how your words could have hurt if you said it to that person and afterwards your anger will subside. I try to put myself in the receiving end and become conscious how painful the words could be.
The best solution for me is through prayer, I pray for God to calm me and to release my anger and turn it into compassion. I am one person who canít stay angry for a long time. I have a very soft heart and involuntarily have compassion to the person I am angry at.
Itís advisable to pray to God to control your temper since you never know where your anger could take you. A deep wound could take long to heal because of harsh words.
I canít deny that these steps are very difficult for me to obtain knowing that women or I for that matter am confrontational and want to get to the roots of the problem easily. Itís also frustrating that your counterpart has different ways of releasing their anger. It takes a lot of patience to master this.
Uncontrolled anger transports you into a different person and brings out the ugly side in you. It is terrible to hurt the people you love and add an emotional damage against them. It would jut reveal what character you possess inside.
Proverbs 29:11 ďA fool gives full vent to anger, but a wise man keeps himself under controlĒ.
I hope next time before we do get angry we think ten times before doing something horrible because the person you are angry with is just as human as you are. The person has feelings too and is capable of getting hurt.
We are all sinners by nature and nobody is perfect, though we aspire to make our lives ideal as it is, there will always be tension, friction and chaos. You just have to learn how to compromise and understand one another and most of all manage our emotions not to get off hand.
Anger is a feeling and emotion waiting to be released. Everybody gets angry all the time but there should be channels of releasing your anger. Words should not be used of harm and hurt but of encouragement and praise.
I wish this would always be the case for all of us. Our main objective is to reach out to our counterpart by not provoking or irking them but by making ourselves understood. A right tone of voice would be a start and a correct use of words would come handy.
So control your anger and donít let anger control you. That will keep you safe.
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