At an early age, I already my mind was already set that I would marry before my 30th birthday. So it had to transpire when I was 29 years old.
My mother always told me that I grew up to fast and part of it was because I had two older siblings. As I watched them grow, I also learned from their mistakes.
I told myself that I would have all the fun in life before tying the knot. I would party to death, travel as much as I could and live the carefree lifestyle before I have any responsibilities. Needless to say, I did abide by that rule.
Notwithstanding, by the age of 29 I did meet the man of my dreams who swept my feet away and married me.
During my early twenties, I had witnessed many people fall in and out of marriages. I listened to many testimonies on marriage and its ups and downs.
During my parentsí time, most women got married at an early age and were not focused on careers. Even early on, men were designated to hunt for food, while women were responsible for the house and family.
Currently, it is entirely different and most women focus on their careers before settling down. Times have indeed changed. An average family needs both husband and wife to work to be able to meet the overhead expenses.
Before tying the knot, I was able to gather a great deal of advice on marriage. First of all, my wedding was a very simple and intimate one with just close friends and family. It was a very touching and memorable one. Iím not a big fan on fancy weddings, since I believe; itís between you and your spouse. Your marriage is far greater magnitude than the wedding ceremony.
I heard that one vital ingredient in a marriage is to always treat your marriage like a treasure box. Each day, you should try to deposit as much treasure as you can. The spirit of giving is essential in a marriage.
Someone once told me that marriage is like a garden that needs daily water and sunlight for it to blossom. There are weeds that need to be removed.
The key to an exceptional marriage has love, respect, trust, friendship and understanding. Marriage is a decision that you both made to love each other unconditionally, in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, till death do you part. It is not just a commitment but a covenant you both made in Gods eyes.
God was present during your marriage and God has to be present in your lives since He is the anchor of your love. This is one of the most fundamental aspects in a marriage. If God is not a part of your married life, most marriages will dwindle.
1Peter 4:8 ďAbove all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sinsĒ.
Marriage has ups and downs, victories and despair, joys and tears love and hurt, but beneath it all lays your covenant for each other which is surrounded by Gods grace.
You will never be acquainted thoroughly with your partner unless you live with him. A lot of things will appeal to you and a lot of things may irritate you but it is always important to stand by your promise.
I would be a hypocrite to say that my marriage is perfect. Like any normal marriage, we have our ups and downs. There are fights and tears but there are also joy and laughter. We manage to communicate and air out problems. At times our emotions may get carried away but we never wait till the next day to resolve issues.
My husband and I make an extra effort to nurture each others needs. There is such a thing as compromise in our relationship. Cursing and hitting below the belt are off limits in our family.
Above all, I must agree that we have a healthy marriage since we submit our lives daily to God. We both believe that God uses us as an instrument to help others and abide by his will. With God as the anchor of our marriage, our covenant is sacred and our vows are intact.
Marriage is not just a piece of paper but itís a promise that I vowed never to break. A promise I hold on till my last breath and a foundation that I built for my family.
Ephesians: 4:22-26 ďWives submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water though the word.
In marriage there is unity and harmony coated with love. So before you walk down that aisle, make sure that youíll never look back.