This is for you who is expecting a baby (or anybody who hopes to get a baby some time in the future). It was impressed in my heart to share this with someone out there. As you read, find out if the Spirit is prompting your inner man to appropriate the insight in this article.
The child you are carrying is a blessing from God. God’s blessings don’t come with regrets. The attitude you have before, during and after birth have the ability to materialise the blessings in the baby.
I strongly believe in my heart that children are blessings from God, and we must view them so—regardless of “when” and “how” they come. Not many people agree with me in this, but children remain blessings regardless of how many they are. Some people think that many children are a “burden”. Equally, some people regard some children as “unwanted”. Well, if they are “unwanted” then they can as well be “needed”. The fact that we don’t want them doesn’t mean we don’t need them. To me needing something is stronger than wanting something. The problem is that sometimes we don’t want what we need. In fact, we may not even realise that what we think we don’t want is exactly what we need.
The worst thing that can happen to a woman is to be raped. I am a man and you probably wonder how I know this. There are things that God can impress in one’s spirit so that one may not have to experience something firsthand to “understand” it. But I want to say that a baby is a blessing even if it results from rape or adultery. Please don’t stop reading—you may reach gold after digging through tons of gravel. If the baby is a human being, then it is the image of God regardless of how it came. I want to quickly give two examples (in a question form) before I get back to the main purpose of writing this article: Why did God…
i) … give King David a son (Solomon) who would succeed him through a woman he fraudulently acquired? (2 Samuel 11).
ii) … choose to rescue the children of Israel (Gileadites) through Jephthah, the castaway son of a prostitute? (Judges 11).
In both questions I don’t have the answer, but it tells me this: God can make a king out of a “reject”. I stand not to be surprised at the end of the day when God shows us that among those aborted “unwanted” babies were presidents, leading scientists, great men and women of God, etc. Remember, if it is too precious, it will definitely be too delicate.
We may not even need to struggle with it, God has a purpose for every human being even those born out of wedlock and those that result from rape. I have to stress this so that we get the right attitude.
Let me not digress so much. Back to ‘the child you are carrying is a blessing’. I have talked with a number of women about child-bearing and child-rearing. Though many cite child-rearing challenges as the basis for keeping the number to a minimum, deeper probing ‘proves’ that the challenge of which many women dread is child-bearing. The pain that accompanies the process of giving birth is something that men can only conjecture. It is this latter reason that checks the enthusiasm of going through the ordeal multiple times—more so because the pain at childbirth is a curse.
That is where this article comes in. If you are a Christian—born—again, I want you to know a secret that the enemy has kept from many Christian women. Many still consider the process of childbirth as a curse. This is a lie. Childbirth is not a curse for someone who has accepted Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour.
In Genesis 3:16, God told the woman: “I will greatly increase your pains in childbearing; with pain you will give birth to children...” It is important to note that all the curses that were placed on man were lifted (Gen. 8:21). It is only the curse on the serpent that remained. For man, he can still walk in curses only if he chooses to. One can do this by rejecting the offer of salvation through Christ.
Galatians 3:13 says, “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law by becoming a curse for us, for it is written: ‘Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.’” There it is! Galatians 3:13 tells us that the curse in Genesis 3:16 was cancelled. If you have accepted Christ’s salvation and lordship, the package includes all “debts” cancellation.
As you go through the childbearing process refuse the thoughts that it is a cursed process. The Bible says: “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…” (Prov. 23:7a KJV). Cheerfully claim your heritage of blessings. If you constantly cheer yourself, fear will give way. The Bible also tells us: “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones (Prov. 17:22).
Naturally, the birth canal is smaller than the baby. This means that some discomfort must be expected. As you look forward to the day of delivery, pray for confidence; claim what you now ‘know’, i.e. the pain that may hide behind the fear and the curse have been cancelled by the Blood of Christ.
The child you carrying is a blessing—may God establish this!