I thought there were only a few other woman who thought like I did, but then I accidentally surfed to Dr. Laura Schlessingerís website. It is pleasing to know, and so encouraging that I found another woman, and a successful one to boot, who believes that a man should be the watchdog of the household.
I sincerely believe myself to be a freer, happier and more content-filled woman than those who strive so hard to be something they really arenít. Face it, women werenít meant to control the world of men, just like men were not meant to wear a bra and pantyhose.
Donít get me wrong, there is nothing at all wrong with a successful career minded woman, but if it takes away from the obvious responsibilities that a woman was meant to partake in, then it is absolutely not acceptable.
The truth of the matter is these particular women only want to be validated for who they are. But who are they? I donít even think THEY know who they are! They must define them self through a means that makes them FEEL better. Their resentment towards men makes them feel better when they are behaving like men in high heels.
All of this unnecessary hoopla stems from the emotional imbalance of the spiritual self. Unfortunately, while these women strive to be the TOTAL woman, their particular issues and causes go against the desire of the Creator, and their spirit stays out of whack and out of tune with the normal responsibilities inherited within them from when they were created.
For some reason when they achieve the things that go against their very nature of womanhood is when they feel validation? In retrospect all of this originates from HOW THEY FEEL AS WOMEN. These women validate each other through wrong thinking. They donít understand that their own negative feelings towards being a woman actually control the real woman they can become. They are wasting their potential as women, and because of that, loving, caring husbands, and children are suffering because of it!
The real issue here is when a woman tries to define her being (soul) through the act of abortion or the act of leadership and power, she is actually in rebellion to God when her spirit should be tending to the necessities of family, home, and life.
In all reality, it is not in a womanís true nature to lord over men. I donít understand why some of these women canít see where the milk comes from. Women are leaders in their own right! They are selected in doing what they do best, nurturing babies, bringing up loving and respectful children, and supporting their husbands.
There is no family without the woman. The woman is the main link of the family. She is the linkage that keeps it all together, and flowing smoothly. She is the nurturer and lover. She is the one who brings peace and comfort into the home.
It is not degrading to be a woman; it is degrading trying to be a man in high heels!
So this brings me to the married woman? Where does she fit in to all of this? Well, a married woman certainly canít do a very good job taking care of her home and family if she is out trying to conquer the world of men. Right?
As we all know, the bible says the wife should submit to her husbandís spiritual authority and the husband should love the wife? What does it mean?
The husband should love is wife so he can offer his spiritual authority properly. If a man doesnít love his wife, then he probably canít give acceptable spiritual counsel, wouldnít you agree?
If the husband loves his wife, then he is going to make sure that nothing harms her. He will protect her as much as he possibly can. He might not want her to drive at night by herself in the car. He might not want her to wear a skimpy bikini to the beach when he is not with her. He might not want her to spend time with friends who really arenít friends, but are bad influences. He might not want her to work outside of the home, because he feels that it is his job to bring home the bacon.
Do you think that submitting to your husband makes you inferior to him, and not in control of your womanhood? Well it is not true. When a woman allows her Christ-honoring husband to lead the household she is putting her faith in God, and respecting the role of her husband as well. That is real validation!
When a husband orders that his wife submit to him, then it's not true submission. Taking advantage of scripture and using it out of context as a mere tool for intimidating and hurting your wife is wrong and leads to resentment. There is no application in this instance.
But this is precisely why God says that a husband should love his wife like Christ does the church! A Christ-honoring man is a man who loves his wife, and he will not take advantage of his leadership role. Likewise, a Christ-honoring wife will not try to undermine her husbandís leadership role. Itís really that simple.
Men, love your wives, and ladies submit to your man!
Come on ladies, giving in to the authority of your husband doesn't mean you have lost your rights as a woman or individuality. It doesnít mean that you are not dependent minded enough to think on your own and have your own opinions either. It means you love and respect your husband for being a man!
Submission is being respectful. Just as the wife submits to her husband so should the husband to the Lord.
Let's look at it another way and pretend that this scripture was never written.
There is only one captain to every ship and with that ship there is only one first mate. The captain needs his first mate, she is the one who reads the navigational charts and brings out the sails and brings in the lines. She is there for him when storms come and waves are washing up onto the deck. She cooks for him to bring him energy during the storm because while she is sleeping, he is still steering the ship through the storm to safety.
The husband is the helmsman and the wife is the first mate. What a wonderful relationship. The first mate is a supportive, caring, and helpful beyond belief. Without the first mate to lend a hand in times of need and decision-making, the ship would sink.
The first mate needs the captain for without a captain to steer the ship, there would be no destination-no purpose to why you were together in the first place.
If both the captain and the first mate try and take the helm and lead the ship to separate shores, the ship ends up adrift because both are steering in separate directions.
So ladies, when we rebel against our husband's divine authority, we are actually rebelling against the will of God.
The bottom line, someone has to be the head of the family, and in nature, history and scripture this has always been the male. God gives him this position not of demanding ruler-ship, but of responsibility and honor.
So men, love your wives with the WISDOM God gave you and she will submit out of her enduring love for you!
Angie Lewis has authored JOURNEY ON THE ROADS LESS TRAVELED, and is the writer for Heaven Ministries, a online marriage ministry.
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