Our lives are made up of many aspects: mental, physical, emotional, family, friends, and many more if we chose to list them. Let's discuss a few of these with the idea of how they affect us when ignored.
The word "diet" conjures up the idea of weight loss, but it is encompasses much more than that because it is related to how we nourish ourselves in the total sense. If we choose to eat only carbohydrates like pasta, pizza, desserts etc., our bodies will store them as fat if we indulge too much, and our diet will be lopsided in value to us.
When you have an illness such as diabetes or diverticulosis, a diet change is in order, but we are so stuck in our eating patterns, we often don't want to change them. Some people have the idea "nobody is going to tell me what to eat". You know what you are supposed to do but you are ignoring it so you can do what you want which leads to consequences.
Put yourself in the place of your doctor for a moment. You have some ailment in your body and come to him for advice and treatment. Yet, when he gives you something for it, you may not take it properly, such as with antibiotics, or not take them at all. Then you return to the doctor when the situation becomes worse again, and it is like he has a revolving door in his office of people who won't follow advice.
Naturally, you have to be proactive in your own behalf when you seek medical advice, but why go to the doctor if you won't do what he tells you? You are probably paying some amount of money to see him at his office, so you are wasting money among other things by being this way.
One part of the problem is that when people don't agree with someone such as a doctor or don't hear what they want to hear, they decide to take the matter in their own hands and second-guess their doctor. If a medicine is making you ill in some way, then you need to let him know so he can remedy the situation. But if you don't tell him, he is not a mind reader
The other part of the problem is what we discussed before, people not wanting to change their lifestyles to accommodate what is happening in their bodies. They think they can do what they want and get away with it, but harm can come from this attitude because the condition will likely get worse, maybe until it is time to be hospitalized or worse.
Let's use your home for an example of this. What if you never put anything away where it belonged? You would have clutter to the extreme, right? This is what happens when we don't prioritize our lives, we get a jumble of things going on, but there is no direction or meaning after awhile. If you don't know how to say the word "no" when people ask you to do something, you will be running in many different directions and accomplishing very little.
Some things that are important can be done at a later time, when your schedule is not so crowded, but others cannot wait and have to attended to right away. People seem to think they can do everything that comes along and still do it in a quality way, but that won't happen because you will eventually get ill or burnt out from doing this. The clock is ticking in your life and you may feel time is running out, so you try to cram as much into a day as you can, and later on it backfires because you are on overload.
What are the most important things in your life: family, work, friends, etc? For example, you cannot expect to have a good family life if you are working 60-80 hours a week or more. If you want children but don't see the nee the need to make time for them, what's the use? If you want a relationship that matters, you may have to make a job change to accommodate your goal if it cannot be worked out. In other words, think about what you are doing to your body and total being by stressing it when you don't consider the consequences of each new addition. Goal-setting or prioritizing doesn't just happen once and then it is done, it is a constant evaluation of what is important to us, and what is not.
This aspect is an easy one to ignore because we cannot reach out and touch it. People get hurt by others and ignore the spiritual side of their beings the rest of their lives sometimes. That concept is like the idea of eating something you didn't like and deciding not to ever eat again because of it. We are all responsible to God for our spiritual welfare. If you allow others to keep you from being close to God because of some slight, you are the loser both in this life and the one to come. If you think about it, ignoring your spiritual side is also a choice.
God has provided a way to be close to Him, but many people take the attitude they have with their doctors, trying to circumvent what he says. This is done in the spiritual sense by people making up their own religions, making a "spiritual smorgasbord" of what they believe, seeking to find another way to God other than what He has already prescribed in the Bible. We each must make these choices for ourselves even if they are the wrong ones.
Control and Abuse
Have you noticed how many people around you are always trying to control you? Do you allow this to happen or do you set up parameters and stick to them? There are so many types of control, it is often hard to recognize them until it is too late. We have to be vigilant otherwise we become the slave of others' wishes, and have no will or life of our own.
If someone is abusing you, do you equate that with love? It is not! Real love seeks to help rather than control or hurt you. Abuse and control are both products of selfishness among other things. If someone says they love you and then abuses you in some way, they are lying. Pray about these situations then set up the barricades and keep them up. No one has the right to hurt you in these ways.
What have you been ignoring in your life? Think about the things in your life that really matter. Have you allowed your life to become cluttered by things that aren't really important because you don't want to hurt others' feelings, perhaps? You are the only one who can change what is happening. No one can help you unless you allow it. It takes three steps to change: think and evaluate, talk about it, then the action. Many people get stuck in the first two and never progress to the needed remedy. I hope you won't be one of these!
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