WE ALL HAVE A DEEPEST DESIRE FOR RECOGNITION AND APPRECIATION
I did not prepare for my university examination as sincerely as this guy who topped in all! I remember I almost scored as high as he did!! The secret was this. Not long before examination started, I picked a book from the library on how to succeed in examinations. It said how best you prepared for the examination is not that all, unless you know how to present your answers in the examination! The book gave tips for getting the attention of the person who is going to evaluate your answers. Neat handwriting (If you don’t have this gift, make your alphabets small and give spaces between words and your writing will look good!), underlining important words in your answer(which you are sure are right), giving serial numbers on the left for the points in your answer (Avoid large paragraphs) are some of the tips the author recommended. The secret is this. The man who is going to correct your answer sheets, invariably doesn’t have time to read the whole of the stuff you have written. As soon as he picks up your answer sheet he gets a good impression, if you follow the above tips. You get attention and recognition from him .No wonder I scored well!
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Almost all of us live two lives, what people see outside and what is really going on inside. In school we learn what outward signs of attention will please the teacher. At job we learn to put up a good front whenever the boss happens to stroll by. We learn to excel at hiding truly serious problems. There are two “yous”,the visible ‘you’ that is known to everyone and the real ‘you’ that is known only to God. This inherent nature in human beings show that they have a deepest desire for recognition and appreciation.
Recognition and appreciation top the list of motivational factors in organizations. William James, a 19th century American philosopher and psychologist said, “I now perceive one immense omission in my psychology, the deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated”.
Question: “Which one thing everyone in the world wants?”
You work, dress, choose things, do good things, buy, behave well, do this and that and go here and there just to get recognition, appreciation and attention.
We all want to excel. We want recognition and appreciation by following the tips set by self-help books.
1. Consider your dreams.
2. Clarify your values.
3. Set some goals.
4. Figure out what you are good at.
5. Aim high and go for it.
6. Be disciplined.
7. Believe you can achieve your goals.
8. Involve others.
9. Never give up.
Today, the corporate world believe in replacing older people by new and young executives. It is true that the latter give a better output and it is also true that the former can contribute their experience and wisdom in crucial decisions. The fact is young and new crave more for appreciation than the older. I am of the opinion that the attitude of an individual can be changed drastically and perhaps permanently by using what I want to call ‘Appreciation Tool’.
Apostle Paul says to the Christians in Philippi, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves" (Phil. 2:3).
It is easy to find fault in the work, a person involved in. A positive approach to a fault committed, repairs the fault committed by an individual. Appreciation (or recognition) is a great tool, if you know how to use it effectively.
Everyone needs to feel appreciated. Appreciation works best when done individually and often. Awards, prizes, money incentives and flattery followed by manipulative managers are not as effective as a genuine appreciation and recognition.
Some of the most effective forms of recognition cost nothing at all. One of the most effective forms of no-cost recognition is an employee hearing the sound of his own name. Use his name when delivering a comment. Tell him why he or she is important to you. Greet employees by name when you pass their seats.
Here are some tips to increase people’s effectiveness.
1. Immediate recognition.
When your subordinates do something worth recognizing, praise them as close to the time it happened as possible.
2. Appreciate for specific actions.
Instead of saying “Good job”, say “ I heard you only located the fault in the PCB soldering” or “ The customer mentioned your name and that he is satisfied now”
3. Their needs, not yours:
Meet the employee’s needs, not with a view to fulfill your needs. Different individual has different needs. Grant permission to leave office for a genuine personal reason. Attend his child’s birthday party or a wedding in his house.
4. Appreciation in public.
Appreciate in public as often as possible. (Give negative comments, only in private.)
Try saying positive things about people "behind their backs”. When they hear good things you said from someone else, it builds trust and adds credibility to your compliment.
5. Be sincere.
Shake hands in confidence and share sincerely how you feel about it. Avoid exaggerations. Flattery is a negative form of praise that can do more harm than good
Nearly everyone is familiar with the "Golden Rule" even if they don't realize that it comes to us in its perfect form as a command of Jesus: "In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets" (Matthew 7:12).
Ignore imperfections and recognize accomplishments. One study showed that 46% of people who quit their jobs did so because they felt unappreciated. Let us adopt “thank you” culture and not “spank you” culture.
Sincere recognition and genuine appreciation are the vital motivation factors to improve performance continually.
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