What can I write about Scott? He is my first-born and I grew up with him.
When I got pregnant and gave birth to him, I thought I knew everything and quickly discovered I knew very little about raising children or being married
They say hindsight is better than foresight and sitting here twenty-six years later watching my four-year-old play. I realize how true that is. Unfortunately or maybe fortunately, I didn’t have hindsight all those years ago. I only went with what I knew and the turned out to be not so bad. As I said in the beginning, Scott raised me as much as I raised him. Since I had babysat my younger brother and sister, I was a 19 year old thinking I knew everything about kids.
The first problem I encountered was Scott was a boy. It was not that I wasn’t aware he had different parts, but he definitely worked differently than my sisters and I did and even though I had babysat for my younger brother, having a boy of your own is a completely different experience. When I got into something I couldn’t handle my mother would step in to take care of my brother. This time I was the mother with no one stepping in to take over. Dealing with an infant 24/7 for the first time can be daunting to anyone, let alone a 19 year old.
The second problem I encountered was my husband and I hadn’t been married quite a year when my son was born. It was one week before our first wedding anniversary. Al and I were still getting to know each other and learning how to be married and now we had a baby. To say the least our second year was not all honey and roses, not that the first had been either, but I think the second was worse.
Anyway, the three of us survived and in spite of the trials of those first years had other children. Now 26 years later, my son has grown into a young man and he is not a serial killer or a psychopath. Scott may not be a doctor or an electrical engineer, but he is doing something he is passionate about. He is an actor. Maybe he isn’t famous yet, but if he has anything to say about it, he will be someday.
We must have done a few things right while raising him. In fact it is safe to say for a 19 year old girl and a 20 year old boy his father and I did a good job and Scott didn’t do a half bad job raising us either.
I couldn’t be prouder of the man he is becoming. He is caring and compassionate, bold and daring, yet firmly rooted in family and love. He is capable of making his own choices and then accepting the consequences of his choices. I’m sure he will make more mistakes on his life’s path, but he won’t let them destroy him. He will pull himself up, brush himself off and move on to the next challenge life throws at him.
I only hope that like Scott, I can rise up from the mistakes made when he was growing up and raise his little sister Ana to be the strong, confident person I raised him to be.
Thank You Scott for being so kind raising me.
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Christina, you write from life-experiences that really touch the heart and soul of all flesh!! You were born to write and my prayer is it won't be long before God rewards your faithfulness and unique writing gift. May He take you to your prepared place this year with a new book full of your wonderful writing in Jesus Christ's magnificent name!! AMEN.
