Today's marriages are on the rocks...there is need like never before for women and men to renew their faith and look unto God for the help to cherish and respect one another in marriage. The Christian marriage should be full of life, hope, and peace.
So how do we reveal the Fruit of the Spirit in our marriages? I mean, it's one thing to talk about being loving and longsuffering toward one another...but boy is it a whole different ball game to actually walk the talk.
I have found that seeking God daily, staying in His word, and remaining close to Him has proven to be an awesome solution. Understanding God's heart on a particular matter that may be bothering you and seeing things from God's perspective may make a huge difference in the way you respond to a situation.
I have found that in my marriage, if I respond quickly and out of an immediate response to my emotions, I oftentimes overreact. But if I wait just a little while longer...no matter how upset I may be...I can talk to God about it, and then I feel better. It's only then that I can respond in a manner that won't be upsetting to everyone in the house!
Do your best to guard the treasure of love in the institute of marriage that our Heavenly Father has granted you. If you are single and desiring a mate, trust the Lord to grace you the strength and desire to wait for His perfect will, and to serve Him and make wise choices during your wait for a husband.
Overall, marriage is a beautiful institution in which God connected man and woman and He shows us how to abide with each other in love and peace. Marriage should be a reflection of the fruit of His spirit. I encourage all married couples today to reflect on your attitudes and conceptions of marriage, and to especially reflect on how you are treating your spouse. Are you seeing your spouse through the eyes of Christ? Do you have a positive purpose and mission in your marriage? Are you treating each other as friends and companions? Remember the scripture that says "love overlooks a multitude of sins". Are you able to overlook each others' faults and idiosyncrancies?
Guard your hearts' in your marriage, and cherish what God has given you. And DEFINITELY, don't let the last time you show your spouse how much you love him or her be on Valentine's Day! Love ALL year long.
Demetria Zinga is the founder and owner of Faith Media, a technology and consulting firm which specializes in web design and hosting, graphics and print designs, internet marketing, and e-training. She is also the founder of Christian Ladies Connect, an interactive ezine, blog, and podcast for Christian women.