Last time we left off talking about the driving force or desire behind being our sister’s keeper. Our desire should arise out of a relationship with Christ and a willingness to aid our sister in becoming spiritually mature in the faith and in her walk with Christ. A genuine relationship with Christ will be evident in personal relationships with others. This does not come easy—we must constantly stand in the presence of the Lord.
Titus 2:3-5 says:
3 The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Paul is saying that all spiritually mature women have the responsibility to mentor those women who are less mature. This is not to exalt you above other women—but for you to give of yourself and share your wisdom and experiences. This scripture gives us 3 focal points: They are:
1. The exhortation to be our sister’s keeper
2. The expectation to be our sister’s keeper; and
3. The example of being our sister’s keeper.
Exhortation to Be our Sister’s Keeper
Paul in this passage of his letter to Titus exhorts the older women to be:
Reverent in behavior which simply means godly in our conduct, in our dress, our conversation. The term older women or aged women can also be understood as spiritually mature women, those who have been in the faith and have a combination of spiritual maturity and life experiences. The criterion is not limited to age.
Not slanderers (Prov. 10:18, I Tim. 3:11) - always finding fault in others, gossiping, false accusers
Not given to much wine (drunkenness) (Romans 13:13, Eph. 5:18—pretty self-explanatory.
Teachers of good things—pass on to other women positiveness—not junk!
Expectation to be our Sister’s Keeper
Now, Paul is saying—look women, not only am I exhorting (or encouraging) you that you need to be a mentor and an example—here is what you are expected to convey to them as well:
You are expected to admonish and encourage your sisters to love their husbands (which means to esteem or respect them), to love their children (these things protect the sanctity of home and the marriage—but also is required of single mothers), to be chaste (sexually pure—I Cor. 6:20, I Cor. 7). Now how are you to do this? In the spirit of love, not as if you, yourself, are too holy to sin or are perfect—but showing love and understanding and identifying clearly the mandates of God. We cannot condone sin, but must confront it lovingly. We must stand on God’s Word and share what He says with love and allow our mistakes and lessons to be lessons for others. Homemakers, good—submissive to their husbands (now isn’t that another topic for another day! LOL) -Eph. 5:22, I Pet. 3:1,5.