Most people when they are asked, why they are still single, reply almost the same thing. They tell you that they are waiting for Mr. or Miss Right, but you see the issue here is not waiting for Mr. Right or Miss Right. The issue is whether you are Mr. Right because you will attract what you are. If you are Mr. Wrong and you get married to Miss Right or vice-versa, you will have a bad marriage.
Some people think that they are ripe for marriage just because they have good looks, intelligence, or eloquence, but that is wrong. It is good to consider all these things, but they are not the best gift you can give to your spouse.
The greatest gift you can give to your spouse is “you”. I know it doesn’t make much sense, but you are the greatest gift your wife or Husband can ever have. if you don’t understand this, you may get married to the right person and still fail in your marriage.
It is not healthy going about looking for the right person, when you have not made yourself right first. You see God who knows what He has put within you, will always find somebody who is good for you, but the issue is not whether you are good for each other, but whether you are good to each other, because there is a difference between the two. being good for each other speaks of the potentials of both parties, it means that their destinies are compatible, but that doesn’t mean that they will be good to each other, because being good to each other is a function of the individual characters in the relationship.
If the individual personalities and characters are not ripe for marriage, such individuals could get married and still have problem. A lot of people have the assumption that if they could just find the right person that their marriage would work but it won’t work just because you found the right person.
Most problems today in marriages are not caused by he devil, but by the immaturity of the people involved. they get married when they are not ripe for it, though they are good for each other, they are not good to each other because of their immaturity. When making a choice in marriage, don’t just pick someone with a good heart, but also with a good head. having a good head entails that you have the ability to handle situations.
After having known this, one may ask; what then is the way out?
Well the first way to make yourself right is to LOVE GOD and the second is to LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF.
Sounds very simple doesn’t it?
If God is the influence in your life, you will not miss the right person, because He orders your steps in His will, even when you are innocently in the wrong path, He makes a way of escape and delivers you.
That is not all there is to having a good marriage, you must also learn to love yourself, then your neighbor as yourself. when you love yourself, then you will work on yourself to improve yourself, because only through this can you make yourself right for someone and be good to them, thereby making yourself the greatest gift they could ever receive