Over the years, I have heard many lamenting on how they may overcome sexual sin. I have heard the cries of many wanting to turn from their ways and desire to be found pleasing in God’s sight.
Married saints often tell us as single saints that we ought not to be having sex, and if we are having sex, to stop. They never tell how we are to go about doing this. They never tell us their testimony of how they overcame before they were married. They just tell us to stop. This makes it hard for many of us to receive anything they say because they are married and having sex and we are not.
I say to all of you who are concerned over the matter that there are answers to your questions and there are ways you can avoid falling into the sexual trap that has ensnared many of us one time or another. There are ways that we can find fulfillment in being single and not having sex.
To those of you who have or are now sinning against God sexually, I say the time is now to stop. The time is now to drop to your knees and ask God to forgive you for your sinful, sexual nature. The time is now to turn from sexual sins and invite the Holy Spirit in to that area of your life and to have His way. To repent is to turn from the areas you are seeking forgiveness.
Turning from Sexual Sins
Now that you have repented, now is the time to ask God in. Petition God to remove the thoughts, the desires-the desire to want to have sex, the desire to seek someone to have sex with and the desire to be involved in any sexual activity-and the will to have sex. Ask God to remove those from your life and those who may cross your path and those who will weaken your resolve to abstain from sex. Ask God to empty your heart from all the “trash” you allowed satan to place there and to fill your heart with His Fruit of the Spirit.
Doing your Part
When the thoughts come to have sex, they may come in many forms. One of them may be a strong thought that won't go away for you to call someone who you know in the past been available for those moments when you want to have sex. The other may be a sexual scene from past partners. Do not let the scene play out. Stop the thoughts/scene before it gets started or play out and ask God for forgiveness. To let it play out weakens your resolve and may lead you back to where you are trying to turn.
Now is the time to stop reading those books that are laden with sexual scenes. Now is the time to stop watching those TV shows and movies that have sexual content in them. Now is the time to not go to those places that may lure you back into sexual degradation. You know those places; I am talking about the bars, clubs and places where you have gone to meet partners in the past. Do not go back to them.
It is now time to cut loose those who are in your life who you normally are with when you are ready to meet those from the opposite sex. Those friends and/or buddies you call when you are ready to go out on a night of the town or go to the mall to pick up a “date”. When you loose those people from your life, God will place people in your life that will not hinder your walk with Him.
Seek God on all that is going on with you. If you are a new believer and want to do God’s will, I suggest reading Galatians and Ephesians after reading the book of John for learning how you are to live while here on earth and what is pleasing to the Lord.
This is also a good time to establish or re-establish a relationship with God. Speak to Him as you would a friend. You will soon find out that Jesus is the bestest friend you can and will ever have. For He is always there to listen and to guide you to where He wants you to be. Do not be afraid to ask Him to strengthen you. Do not be afraid to ask Him to remove those from your path because you are too weak to handle them. Do not be afraid to ask Him to equip you with all you need to overcome. Do not be afraid and expect Him to honor your requests.
One of the biggest mistakes we make as saints, is we go to God and ask Him to help us and then we do not believe He will answer. Expect God to answer you. If you are lacking in this department, please, ask God to increase your faith in Him as you stand on His Word. For He said if you ask and believe, then you shall receive.
Read, read, read your Bible. For the more you read, the more you know. The more you know, the more you want to do God’s will. The more you want to do God’s will, the more you obey His commandments. The more you obey God’s commandments, the closer you become to God. The closer you become to God, the closer you become to having all God desires for you to have, know and do. The more you…
Become part of the body of Christ. If you are a member of a church, I petition you to not be a bench warmer. I advise you to become more active in church. Attend Bible Study and Prayer Meeting. Join some of the ministries at your church. Remember we are all members of the body of Christ and that we have all been blessed with gifts and callings that are to be used.
If you are not a member, I petition you to seek God on revealing to you which church He wants you to be a member. When there are saints who invite you to attend their church, I beseech you to go. You never know if that is where God wants you to be unless you attend. God WILL guide you to where He wants you to be as He begins to reveal His will for your life.
To answer that question that is lurking in the back your some readers minds, yes, I am single and no I am not having sex.