When someone has terribly hurt you, your blood vessels start to contract and tears lag down your cheeks. You feel like a huge lump is stuck in your throat and you feel that an elephant is pressing your chest. You are unaware and dumbfounded and cannot comprehend why such has happened.
All the anger, worries and frustration cloud your head. Your brain seeks refuge in a camp of solitude, while your body hunts for its shell to cloak the hurt you have experienced. You feel like a clam that will only open up once it’s safe to come out. This may take minutes, days, months, years or even eternity to escape you. However, there is such a thing called FORGIVENESS.
Forgiveness is a choice that means giving yourself to the other. (For) GIVE (Ness) is between for and ness.
As the saying goes, “It’s easier said than done”. However time heals and nurses all broken wounds. You can choose to remain remorseful and vindictive which leaves you with a heavy heart or if you throw the stones outside the window and open the locked door, it shall leave all the past behind and give birth to blessings.
There’s a saying that goes, condemn the sin yet not the sinner. Sometimes, it seems difficult to forgive someone who has hurt you or done you harm, but as our Father in heaven has forgiven us, so can we.
I try not to dwell on the flaws of a person but focus on their other side. This may seem difficult especially when the wounds are still fresh. Though how painful it may be, I force myself to pray for these people and find myself asking God to soften my heart.
After exercises of prayer, my feelings of resentment turn into compassion and sympathy, then I begin to realize that there’s always a good side in each of us.
There may be various reasons why the person hurt you, but we also have to take aback and examine ourselves. Your relationship with the person who hurt you may never be the same but it pays to know that in your heart, you have chosen to forgive that person.
When was the last time we hurt God because of our sins and despite that, He had chosen to love us and have mercy on us. It makes you want to ponder that we too are all sinners that commit mistakes.
Forgiveness is the union of one with the other and the rainbow after the storm. So forgive, forget and spread your wings to fly again.