This to the gentlemen on FW who asked me to give my thought on his situation. Peace blessings and love be to you and your wife.
As in my title don't defend yourself anymore. You see, when you argue, you are in a state of ego. You have something to prove to your wife and no matter what she says you will get your point across no matter what. This is talking at someone not to them. It is waiting until she is done talking so you can prove your point, it isn't listening, and it isn't love. This causes an emotional wave that will rise and crash and when it rolls back it will leave anger, hurt, insecurity, and depression in Her and You. Don't argue. Don't defend yourself by defending your actions, words or thoughts as far as what happened and why it happened. Let God defend you. Love doesn't destroy a person, it builds them up. Yes tell the truth but do it in love, with Godly wisdom. Pray for it to recieve it.
The Bible says The Spirit will speak for you in times of need as what to say or how to say it. Being a man doesn't always mean showing your Authority in the home over everybody. That turns into being macho and a dictator quickly. Being a man is best exemplified by through your Godly fruit, doing what The Lord puts in your heart through the Spirit to all who cross your path. It starts in your house then to others. Don't be known as the Greatest Man of God they've ever seen, to every other woman but your wife. In watching the happiness on her face you will be happy. Love is what Love does. If you do it she will do it. Evil can't exist where the Glory of The Lord is.
I hope you recieve this in Love, I respect you for emailing me and as you see I didn't write your situation for everyone to see to play you out.(smile)
P.S. Remember God and also pray for me.Peace in the Name of Jesus.
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Brother, I am glad that you took care not to expose the gentleman's details while you were, yet, able to share with the rest of us your words of wisdom. Though they were specifically for him, they apply to us all and we all stand to learn from the blessed advice here. Thank you for sharing it publicly.