by Melissa Ringstaff, Director
Do you have a servent's heart when it comes to your marriage? My mother has always been a good example of what a serving wife should be. She dotes over my father daily. She fixes him hot meals every night after she comes home from work and seems to tirelessly find ways to make his life easier. I think of her when I think of the kind of wife I want to be. I enjoy serving my husband. He is loving, works hard and appreciates a clean home and good food. In the time that we have been married I have found a deep source of contentment from serving him in the smallest ways.
In her book, Common Sense Christian Living, Edith Schaeffer says, "When you are serving someone else, in any tiny physical way, and in many, many other ways, you are the benefiting. You are benefiting physially, emotionally, intellectually, psychologically, and you are benefiting spiritually. Serving with a growing recognition of what it consists of is an exercise of spiritual growth."
"I was hungry and you gave me food;
I was thirsty and you gave me drink;
I was a stranger and you took me in;
I was naked and you clothed me;
I was sick and you visited me;
I was in prison and you came to me."
You could say it this way:
My husband is hungry so I will give him good food to eat so that he is filled with warmth and love.
My husband is working hard in the yard so I will bring him a fresh glass of iced lemonade to refresh his body and spirit.
My husband is feeling alone so I will go to him and comfort him in ways that he will appreciate.
My husband needs clean clothes so I will sort them and wash them and fold them and hang them up so they are there when he needs them.
My husband is ill so I will comfort him and bring him food in bed and cleanse his face so he knows I care.
My husband is imprisoned by others actions and he feels discouraged and confused so I will go to him and pray with him and be there when he needs me.
When we serve our husbands we begin to grow softer spirits, more loving hearts. When we serve our husbands our marriage is renewed and nurtured. When we serve our husbands what we are really doing is serving Jesus. We will be blessed in ways we can hardly imagine!
"Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another. Not slothful in business, fervent in spirit; serving the Lord. Distributing to the necessity of saints: given to hospitality."
We should follow Jesus in every aspect of our lives. Jesus served others without murmuring or grumbling. He did so with love and care. Who else but our husbands is so important in our lives? A husband is special and should be treated as such. He is a gift from God. Bless his life with goodness. "She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." Proverbs 31:12
Melissa Ringstaff is the Director of A Virtuous Woman, a non-profit ministry for women based on the Scriptures of Proverbs 31. You can reach her at www.avirtuouswoman.org or firstname.lastname@example.org.