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What Would Have Happened If She Submitted To Her Husband And Not To The Lord?
by Desert Rose
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It would have been a terrible war. She probably would have been dragged off after witnessing many, if not all the loved ones she knew being killed by swords. And if she was lucky maybe she would have been killed too. But the Lord came to her and she said “Your will be done”

1 Samuel 25
David and the Wife of Nabal
2 Now there was a man in Maon whose business was in Carmel, and the man was very rich. He had three thousand sheep and a thousand goats. And he was shearing his sheep in Carmel. 3The name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. And she was a woman of good understanding and beautiful appearance; but the man was harsh and evil in his doings. He was of the house of Caleb.
4When David heard in the wilderness that Nabal was shearing his sheep, 5David sent ten young men; and David said to the young men, "Go up to Carmel, go to Nabal, and greet him in my name. 6And thus you shall say to him who lives in prosperity: "Peace be to you, peace to your house, and peace to all that you have! 7Now I have heard that you have shearers. Your shepherds were with us, and we did not hurt them, nor was there anything missing from them all the while they were in Carmel. 8Ask your young men, and they will tell you. Therefore let my young men find favor in your eyes, for we come on a feast day. Please give whatever comes to your hand to your servants and to your son David."'
9So when David's young men came, they spoke to Nabal according to all these words in the name of David, and waited.
10Then Nabal answered David's servants, and said, "Who is David, and who is the son of Jesse? There are many servants nowadays who break away each one from his master. 11Shall I then take my bread and my water and my meat that I have killed for my shearers, and give it to men when I do not know where they are from?"
12So David's young men turned on their heels and went back; and they came and told him all these words. 13Then David said to his men, "Every man gird on his sword." So every man girded on his sword, and David also girded on his sword. And about four hundred men went with David, and two hundred stayed with the supplies.
14Now one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal's wife, saying, "Look, David sent messengers from the wilderness to greet our master; and he reviled them. 15But the men were very good to us, and we were not hurt, nor did we miss anything as long as we accompanied them, when we were in the fields. 16They were a wall to us both by night and day, all the time we were with them keeping the sheep. 17Now therefore, know and consider what you will do, for harm is determined against our master and against all his household. For he is such a scoundrel that one cannot speak to him."
18Then Abigail made haste and took two hundred loaves of bread, two skins of wine, five sheep already dressed, five seahs of roasted grain, one hundred clusters of raisins, and two hundred cakes of figs, and loaded them on donkeys. 19And she said to her servants, "Go on before me; see, I am coming after you." But she did not tell her husband Nabal.
20So it was, as she rode on the donkey, that she went down under cover of the hill; and there were David and his men, coming down toward her, and she met them. 21Now David had said, "Surely in vain I have protected all that this fellow has in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that belongs to him. And he has repaid me evil for good. 22May God do so, and more also, to the enemies of David, if I leave one male of all who belong to him by morning light."
23Now when Abigail saw David, she dismounted quickly from the donkey, fell on her face before David, and bowed down to the ground. 24So she fell at his feet and said: "On me, my lord, on me let this iniquity be! And please let your maidservant speak in your ears, and hear the words of your maidservant. 25Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel Nabal. For as his name is, so is he: Nabal is his name, and folly is with him! But I, your maidservant, did not see the young men of my lord whom you sent. 26Now therefore, my lord, as the LORD lives and as your soul lives, since the LORD has held you back from coming to bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hand, now then, let your enemies and those who seek harm for my lord be as Nabal. 27And now this present which your maidservant has brought to my lord, let it be given to the young men who follow my lord. 28Please forgive the trespass of your maidservant. For the LORD will certainly make for my lord an enduring house, because my lord fights the battles of the LORD, and evil is not found in you throughout your days. 29Yet a man has risen to pursue you and seek your life, but the life of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of the living with the LORD your God; and the lives of your enemies He shall sling out, as from the pocket of a sling. 30And it shall come to pass, when the LORD has done for my lord according to all the good that He has spoken concerning you, and has appointed you ruler over Israel, 31that this will be no grief to you, nor offense of heart to my lord, either that you have shed blood without cause, or that my lord has avenged himself. But when the LORD has dealt well with my lord, then remember your maidservant."
32Then David said to Abigail: "Blessed is the LORD God of Israel, who sent you this day to meet me! 33And blessed is your advice and blessed are you, because you have kept me this day from coming to bloodshed and from avenging myself with my own hand. 34For indeed, as the LORD God of Israel lives, who has kept me back from hurting you, unless you had hurried and come to meet me, surely by morning light no males would have been left to Nabal!" 35So David received from her hand what she had brought him, and said to her, "Go up in peace to your house. See, I have heeded your voice and respected your person."
36Now Abigail went to Nabal, and there he was, holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king. And Nabal's heart was merry within him, for he was very drunk; therefore she told him nothing, little or much, until morning light. 37So it was, in the morning, when the wine had gone from Nabal, and his wife had told him these things, that his heart died within him, and he became like a stone. 38Then it happened, after about ten days, that the LORD struck Nabal, and he died.
39So when David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, "Blessed be the LORD, who has pleaded the cause of my reproach from the hand of Nabal, and has kept His servant from evil! For the LORD has returned the wickedness of Nabal on his own head."
And David sent and proposed to Abigail, to take her as his wife. 40When the servants of David had come to Abigail at Carmel, they spoke to her saying, "David sent us to you, to ask you to become his wife."
41Then she arose, bowed her face to the earth, and said, "Here is your maidservant, a servant to wash the feet of the servants of my lord." 42So Abigail rose in haste and rode on a donkey, attended by five of her maidens; and she followed the messengers of David, and became his wife. 43David also took Ahinoam of Jezreel, and so both of them were his wives. 44But Saul had given Michal his daughter, David's wife, to Palti the son of Laish, who was from Gallim.

Submission is to be to the Lord only and not unto men. The Lord will have you submit to the men that he wills you to.

But for those that are not following the will of our Lord, and not Walking in the Spirit, you must remain under the law and under submission to men and rulers.

Colossians 3
2Set your mind on things above, not on things on the earth.
3For you died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. 4When Christ who is our life appears, then you also will appear with Him in glory.

23And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, 24knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ.

Galatians 5
Walking in the Spirit
16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish. 18But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law.

It was mentioned that this Bible story was BC, but then what Jesus said would not be true.
John 8:58
Jesus said to them, "Most assuredly, I say to you, before Abraham was, I AM."

There is also the danger of taking the Bible as a part and not as a whole. There are so many people that misquote Ephesians 5:22 because they have taken it out of the context of the whole beautiful chapter and especially excluding verses 15-21 and 32-33

Ephesians 5
Walk in Wisdom
15 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, 16redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
17Therefore do not be unwise,

but understand what the will of the Lord is.

18And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation;

but be filled with the Spirit,

19speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord, 20giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,

21submitting to one another in the fear of God.

32This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.


let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and

let the wife see that she respects her husband.

Apparently husbands have trouble loving their wives and wives have trouble respecting their husbands. And submission was never meant to be limited to wives. And we all have trouble submitting to the will of our Lord.

Why do we all have so much trouble accepting the fact that Christ came to show and help us understand the things of heaven and not of this earth? It is the Spiritual things that we can only understand when we are Walking in the Spirit.

John 3
11Most assuredly, I say to you, We speak what We know and testify what We have seen, and you do not receive Our witness. 12If I have told you earthly things and you do not believe, how will you believe if I tell you heavenly things?

And if you are going to bring up Titus 2:4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste homemakers

you must condemn every woman that is not a homemaker, but works outside her home

or condemn every woman that has divorced her husband.

Mark 10 11So He said to them, "Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her. 12And if a woman divorces her husband and marries another, she commits adultery."

It will be of no use to condemn these women, and all the women that wear men's clothing and jewelry, because of segregated Bible verses that you could throw at them.

It is not sinful to be diobedient to your earthly husband so that you can be obedient to your Spiritual Husband.

Isaiah 54:5
5For your Maker is your husband,
The LORD of hosts is His name;
And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel;
He is called the God of the whole earth.

Blasphemes against the son of man will be forgiven, but not blasphemes against the Holy Spirit.

Luke 12:10
"And anyone who speaks a word against the Son of Man, it will be forgiven him; but to him who blasphemes against the Holy Spirit, it will not be forgiven.

Jesus did not come to condemn the world but to save the world

John 3:17
For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.

I don't expect you to believe me, but why must so many resist the Spirit of God?

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Sharon McClean 30 Oct 2004
I enjoyed your article, but the story you mention is BC. Only when we are submitted to the Lord, can we truly submit to our husbands. Eph.5:22-Wives SUBMIT to your OWN HUSBAND as TO THE LORD. (23) For the husband is HEAD of the wife, as also Christ is HEAD of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. (24) Therefore, just as the church IS SUBJECT to Christ, so let the wives BE SUBJECT to THEIR OWN HUSBANDS in EVERYTHING. Titus 2:4 that they admonish the young women to LOVE their husbands, to LOVE their children, (5) to be discreet, chaste homemakers, good, OBEDIENT to THEIR OWN HUSBANDS, THAT THE WORD of GOD MAY NOT BE BLASPHEMED. Blessings, Sharon
Sharon McClean 30 Oct 2004
I am so sorry for any offense that I may of caused by my comments! Please accept my apology for I mean it sincerely! Love in Christ, Sharon
Joyce Poet 30 Oct 2004
Submission to the Lord definitely comes first. May the Lord bless us all (the married women of God) with men of God... as husbands worthy of our submission. That must be why the Lord said "DO NOT BECOME UNEQUALLY YOKED." And the story you presented is one such incident of an unequally yoked marriage. Yes, yes... submission to the Lord definitely comes first.
Joyce Poet 30 Oct 2004
PS... I believe that the highlight of your article stands in this statement: "It is not sinful to be diobedient to your earthly husband so that you can be obedient to your Spiritual Husband." (even with the missing "s" :::wink:::) Of course, obedience to the Lord should always be our top priority.


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