Love has a pain about it that cries out to be satisfied. If youíve ever been in love then you know what I mean. Itís not like you canít stand to be alive. But sometimes it can get awfully hard.
When youíre in love itís like youíre shining in the moonlight. Everything is beautiful. Godís Light shines on you. You canít do anything wrong. You donít want to. Everythingís perfect. And then one day you want to see why. We always have to ask why. That seems to be our nature.
Sometimes things can grow stale in a relationship. Itís when you fall below a certain level of intensity that everything begins to go wrong, and then youíre not sure of anything.Your feelings change constantly, back and forth.
Letís look at any particular relationship, a love relationship between a man and woman. For it to be exciting they have to be at a high level of feeling. If something goes wrong, then they have to build up that energy again. You donít even think about this when youíre in love. You have better things to think about than how it all works. So you ignore the basics.
I wish I could write about love in a completely loving way but there are some things negative about it. We are all negative and positive, good and bad. Love is the same way. It has to keep a balance. Thatís important to remember.
Certain boundaries are usually set down by someone. There is always a lover and a beloved. Traditionally, the male has been the lover, the seducer. The beloved is usually the female. But it can be completely the opposite. Imagine a reversal of those roles. We need all of this to be really experienced.
In a one on one relationship itís harder to keep it going because thereís only two of you to combat each other. Maybe itís easier in a few ways. You have to pick and choose your fights. If a relationship doesnít have some fights in it, itís not healthy. We canít all think alike. This may seem to be against Christian theology but itís not against human nature.
Weíre not evolved enough to be peaceful and happy all the time. Life has its ups and downs. We want a challenge and this isnít bad either, if it will help us to grow.
We can take some shortcuts but they usually get us into trouble. We are born to experience all the emotions and we have to go through these experiences, willingly or not. It doesnít matter. We are going to learn them one way or another.
Some people resist these things but theyíre part of living. Itís not meant to be so unpleasant. We just make it that way. We stay mad at each other to see if we can make the other one suffer. Itís like a game but itís a dangerous game.
There are better ways to live and we must find them. This is our duty as Christians. It should be our solemn vow to each other that we are going to help as much as we can, on our spiritual journey together.
Written by Anita Thomas
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