There are those that will tell you that there is really no difference between men and women. Somewhere, we all have the same basic thoughts and emotions dwelling deep within us. We all have an inner man or a feminine side that is just trying to get out. I am not one of those people.
I am going to tell you that there is a big difference between men and women. We donít think alike. We donít act alike. We donít feel alike. Oh, we are all-human and have basically the same body parts, but thatís about where the line is drawn.
Emotions are the realm of the female. Iím not saying that men donít feel. Iím saying that, when it comes to feelings and emotions, women are far better at identifying them and have a greater ability to express them. Men donít like expressing their emotions. Women cry at movies that have deep love stories or tales of women struggling to beat the odds against cancer. Theyíre called ďchick flicksĒ for a reason.
Reason is the domain for men. Again, Iím not saying that women do not possess logic. But, men are better at being able to figure and solve. A man will look at a problem and try to solve it. A women will ask you how you feel about it. Getting the picture?
We are hard-wired to be different. We were made to be different. This is so any problem could be approached from both sides. Kind of like asking what the best solution is without hurting anybody. Both sides have to be considered. No side is better than the other, and no side is inferior to the other. Certain situations call for different solutions, but both are equal in their value.
I once heard a preacher on the radio give an example of this. His wife called him from the airport. She had just missed her flight and was quite upset about it. He tried to ask her if there was another flight she could take. She simply repeated, ďI missed my flight.Ē She was looking for him to empathize, and he wanted to solve the problem and get her through her difficulty.
Why am I writing about this? For far too long have the two sides gotten confused. Whatís worse, you might be considered weak or insensitive should suggest that there is a difference. Women acting like men and men acting like women. Iím not talking about the obvious ones who go so far as homosexuality. Iím talking about the tough business woman who totally shuts her emotions off to succeed. Iím talking about the man who tries to be so sensitive that he forgets to think and instead feels his way through life.
Men, Iím going to start with you. You are thinking machines. I donít care how you are portrayed by mainstream media. You end of the deal is to think your way through life. You have to come up with difficult decisions. You have to forge a hard path with your wits to better the lives of your family. You are going to have to achieve the goals you set, and then figure out how to achieve the next set. You are to provide leadership, protection, courage, honor, and sense of duty to your family. These are choices, not emotions.
You also have to be tender every once in awhile. I said women were better. I never said we were incapable. Sometimes, itís best to hold your wife close and not say a word than to try and solve the problem. Itís a dark and weird territory, but you have to feel your way around the emotional battleground. Itís like finding your way to the kitchen with all the lights off.
Ladies, you were given the gift of nurturing. It is your calling to be the heart of your family. Your children will need emotional stability, compassion, and a sense of love to succeed in this life. You have the awesome task of providing that to them. You are the ones that hold your family close when things go wrong. You are the ones that keep them mindful when all is well. Being even-keeled emotionally is essential to strong families.
That being said, a certain sense of reason has to come into play. Donít let buying that dress come between you and saving for a house. The dress will make you feel good now. The house will be a logical investment for decades. See the difference?
Finally, be proud of your gender. The reason why so many are trying to switch sides has a lot to do with the fact that they see only the limitations that their gender brings and not the power. There is great power in being a confident, reasonable, reliable man. There is equally great power in being a loving, nurturing, emotionally balanced women. Why would you want to be different than what God made you to be? He made you different for a reason. You have different tasks to accomplish on this Earth, like finding your inner child.