To Have It All. Is it Possible?
When I look at the Proverbs 31 woman, I see someone who does everything and has everything. If there ever was a measuring stick for the Christian woman, she's holding it. But I tell you, she is one intimidating sister. Hold on, if we who are godly women really looked at ourselves through an admirer's eyes and see all that we do, we'd intimidate ourselves.
And who would that admirer be? The Prov 31 girl is first seen being admired by her son, the King. I believe that verses 10-31 follow and are closely connected to verses 1-9 where King Lemuel is repeating the instruction that his mother - this virtuous woman - gave him, probably from his childhood, something to keep him respectful, smart, judicious and void of troubles. But he was not the only admirer of this woman.
Verse 11 says "the heart of her husband doth safely trust in her", and verse 28 says her husband shall rise up and call her blessed. This man's admiration - her husband- is probably one of the biggest reasons why the Prov 31 girl was all that she was. Because her husband, her covering, trusted in her. He wasn't intimidated by her. He wasn't trying to make her the slave girl when she deserved to be the queen of his estate. He recognized the gifts, talents and abilities that God had put in her, and instead of holding her down, he affirmed her worth by saying "have at it. Do your thing, baby."
Now, I have by no means arrived at Prov 31 girl status. But I will tell you this; I have been blessed with a husband, a covering, whose heart doth safely trust in me and is willing to allow me to "soar" in what God has given me to do, sometimes to his own hurt.
Other coverings in the girl's life are her father and her pastor. Father's have a responsibility to set their daughters up for success. Of course, many men have failed, but when we become the daughters of the Holy Father, then He affirms our worth and we get the start that we need, although it comes a little late.
I realized a long time ago, that women have the innate ability to make everything and everyone around them look good. Look at Prov 31. Her family and servants wore scarlet, her husband was reputable. She gave to the poor. She even gave to the business owners in town. Look at you, my sister. God gave you the ability to beautify. Proverbs 14:1 says a wise women builds her house. When you beautify your homes and make them a place where your folks want to come to at the end of the day, we are building our house. Women make the church look good. (Can you imagine a church filled with nothing but men - although that would be the single sister's dream church - but ugh!)
So, I state my case for the virtuous woman. Although you don't feel like it sometimes, if you spend time in the presence of God, God makes you this woman who is worthy of the admiration of those around you. Notice, the words written in Proverbs 31 were not written by the woman about herself. They were written and attested to by the men in her life, and others around her.
Your worth is inestimable, my sister, and don't forget it.
* other goodies that have come out of the Women of Proverbs 31 will be examined from time to time, but subtopics include the following:
Proverbs 31:10 The Woman and her worth
Proverbs 31:11 The Woman and her man
Proverbs 31:12 The Woman and her character
Proverbs 31:13 The Woman and her talent
Proverbs 31:14 The Woman and her cunning
Proverbs 31:15 The Woman and her resources
Proverbs 31:16 The Woman and her money
Proverbs 31:17 The Woman and her strength/endurance
Proverbs 31:18 The Woman and her investments
Proverbs 31:19 The Woman and her creativity
Proverbs 31:20 The Woman and charity
Proverbs 31:21 The Woman and adversity
Proverbs 31:22 The Woman and her position of influence
Proverbs 31:24 The Woman and her career/business
Proverbs 31:25 The Woman and her dignity
Proverbs 31:26 The Woman and her tongue
Proverbs 31:27 The Woman and her prayer life
Proverbs 31:28 The Woman and her family
Proverbs 31:29 The Woman and her competition
Proverbs 31:30 The Woman, beauty and charm
Proverbs 31:31 The Woman and her reward
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