My twin sister Kathleen lived with her husband in Medina, NY and I live with my husband Dan, in Warminster, Pa. We both were trying to have our first babies. For a good year and a half, Kathleen and I would have many conversations about our “problems”; it seemed that we had many of the same reasons for not being able to conceive. We shared our diagnoses, hopes, dreams, and disappointments together. We often questioned why this was happening to us. We both wanted children but just couldn’t. I prayed and prayed for both of our wishes to come true!
On July 17, 1995, our world changed forever! At 8:35 am, Kathleen was in a car accident that ended her life here on earth. I truly questioned my faith, Our Lord, and everything around me. Why, at the young age of 28, was my twin sister taken away from me and the rest of her family? She had so much to live for; it should have been me instead of Kathleen. It took plenty of soul searching and questioning to try to understand and accept Kathleen’s death.
With the help of my Mom, we tracked down my childhood Pastor, Father Kenneth Sharp. Fr. Sharp had gotten to know Kathleen and I very well by watching and guiding us through our Youth Group and Catholicism classes at our Parish of St. Andrew’s Church in Newtown, Pa. Fr. Sharp sat and talked with me for hours about memories of Kathleen and our whole Youth Group experiences. He helped me to accept the fact that we may not fully understand what God’s plan for Kathleen was and why she was taken at such a young age but her job here on Earth was complete and it was her time to re-join Jesus. Kathleen completed her dream of helping people here in earth; she was a nurse in local hospitals and then moved to home hospice responsibilities. Fr. Sharp assured me that Jesus had greater plans for her now. To this day, I don’t think Fr. Sharp truly knows just how much healing he helped me do.
In September of the same year, I had surgery and found out that my chance of ever being able to conceive was very minimal! Dan and I were heartbroken! Again, I questioned why this was happening. Those days, I found myself talking to Kathleen just about as much as I did Jesus. I remember on a few occasions asking Kathleen to “talk with Jesus” about giving us our true wish, being parents. On the morning of November 20th, I had a follow-up appointment regarding my most recent surgery. The nurse ran the normal tests and blood work. Early that afternoon, I heard Kathleen’s voice in my head telling me our wish had come true. I didn’t understand what she was telling me. Later that same afternoon, I called the doctor’s office to get an update on my tests – I found out then, the blood tests showed that I indeed was about 4 weeks pregnant! I couldn’t believe it! I couldn’t wait to get home to tell Dan.
July 31, 1996, we gave birth to our miracle daughter Danielle Theresa.
Again in January 2001, I heard Kathleen’s voice telling me that my wish had come true again. I didn’t think much about the meaning of her message at that time. Until later that month, I found out that I was pregnant again with our second daughter Shannon Rose. Kathleen’s words hit me again hard! Once again, Jesus gave Kathleen the words to tell me something very exciting.
Through the years, I have a better understanding and acceptance on why Kathleen was taken from us at such a young age. I firmly believe that Jesus called Kathleen home so our daughter Danielle could join us on earth. Jesus gave Dan and I two beautiful miracles through the love of Kathleen. I know Kathleen will always be with me to talk to and guide me, she has shown me that in many different ways through the last nine years. The bond of a twin is much deeper then one can ever describe.
Theresa, I've always been amazed by the bond of twins. I've always wished i had one of my own.
Losing your sister must have been truly like losing a part of yourself.
I'm so happy you have found peace in the birth of your child through this. Your sister's spirit will always be with you and one day you will meet again in Heaven.