Let’s consider together the Crowning Quality of a Meek and Quiet Spirit as an adornment of the godly Christian woman. We need to learn what God expects from us regarding proper godly character, attitude and behavior and how to apply these in our daily lives as professing women of God. We also need to learn what God expects from the Christian men in our lives – our husbands/future husbands, our brothers, our fathers, our sons, our sons-in-law, our church leaders – so that we can encourage and support them and even hold them accountable to fulfill their proper godly roles as professing Christian men.
Some Crowning Qualities
By both precept and example, the Scriptures give us many crowning qualities of godly Christian womanhood. Many of these qualities apply to all Christians, not just women; but the woman who crowns herself with them is indeed adorning herself as a true woman of God. Examples of such women whom we can emulate are Sarah, Ruth, Esther, Deborah, Mary the mother of Jesus, etc.
Here’s a semi-exhaustive list of those crowning qualities:
• A devout spirit (devoted to God, obedient to His Word, seeks His face in everything, faithful, puts God first, joyfully submits to His will, etc.)
• Always ready to serve
• Always ready to labor
• Liberal, generous
• Meek and quiet in spirit
• Strong and courageous
The crowning quality of godly Christian womanhood that we will focus on for this series of bible studies is a meek and quiet spirit as it relates to 1) modesty, 2) submission to husbands (future husbands), and 3) the husband’s duty in marriage.
Establishing Our Foundation
But first, we need to establish the foundation of our study, with the Word of God as our guide. If your mind and heart and life are not devoted to Christ (the first crowning quality of godly Christian womanhood listed above), you will not discern the importance of the teaching in these bible studies and why and how to apply what you learn to your daily life going forward.
“I have noticed that whenever there has been a faithful following of the Lord in a consecrated soul, several things have, sooner or later, inevitably followed. Meekness and quietness of spirit become, in time, the characteristics of the daily life. A submissive acceptance of the will of God, as it comes in the hourly events of each day, is manifested; pliability in the hands of God to do or to suffer all the good pleasure of His will; sweetness under provocation; calmness in the midst of turmoil and bustle; a yielding to the wishes of others, and an insensibility to slights and affronts; absence of worry or anxiety; deliverance from fear – all these, and many other similar graces, are invariably found to be the natural outward development of that inward life which is hid with Christ in God.” -- Hannah Whiteall Smith
Also, our discussion of these crowning qualities should not be a taking of turns on expressing our individual preferences and points of view. Rather, it should be a discovering together of what is the preference and point of view of our Heavenly Father as revealed in His Word, the Holy Bible. The topics we will discuss – meekness, modesty, submission, duties in marriage -- are too often debated according to subjective idiosyncrasies arising out of our various individual upbringings, experiences, and tastes. But we need to look at these topics from God’s objective perspective, and then we need to accept His standard for godly Christian womanhood. If we don’t care enough about what our Lord and Savior wants and expects from us, we will learn very little from this series of study.
But since we do care, let’s look at each of the following foundational scriptures that we should keep in the forefront of our minds as we get into this study. Read over each of them twice:
• Proverbs 3:5-6
• Ecclesiastes 12:13-14
• Matthew 5:16
• Romans 12:1-3
• 1 Corinthians 10:23,31
• Titus 2:12
• James 4:6-8 (cf. 1 Peter 5:5)
• 1 John 2:15-17
With all that said and established, let me say that after 20 years of being in the faith of Christ, I am still in the learning and applying process myself, and that I have to trust that God is using me to bring this teaching to you in spite of myself. Admittedly, this has been quite a struggle because, even though I love and fear God, He has shown me just how much I’m still missing a few jewels in my own little lackluster crown. Who am I to teach a women’s bible study on this subject? I am nothing.
But God is everything. It’s all about Him anyway, not me and not my fellow sisters in Christ. And that’s all the more reason to keep the Scriptures as our foundation and guide. It’s by God’s grace that we women can even attain to these crowning qualities. And it is by that same grace, God’s infinite grace, that He led me to be the teacher in spite of myself. It cannot be avoided, however hard it is. But this is a time of learning and exhorting for all of us, together, and I’m more just a facilitator than role model.
Let’s now pray…
Lord, please prepare every person’s heart for this important, timely bible study. Prepare the hearts and minds of the facilitator, every participant, and every other audience to receive Your Word on the hard to attain quality of a meek and quiet spirit and on the often subjective subject of modesty. Push aside the flesh. Keep us focused on the foundation and purpose of our discussion. Give us wisdom and discernment about how to apply what You show us today to our daily lives. Make us more and more God-pleasers rather than man-pleasers – both generically and literally. Bless those who will take the notes and search the scriptures to make sure that what goes forth is indeed in line with Your Word. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
Read Part One - Modesty, under separate submission.
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