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Virginity and Deflower
by Chukwu Samuel
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“And the lord said, “It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a companion who will help him.” (Genesis 2 Vs 18)
This shows that God is the author of marriage and He is very much interested in our relationship as his children, therefore His rules and regulations must be kept to allow His divine agenda over our lives to be accomplished.

Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a harlot? God forbid. What? Know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? For two saith he shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit, Flee fornication, every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committed fornication sinneth against his own body. What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price, therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s. (1 Corinthians 6 vs 15 – 20)
I beseech you therefore, brethren by the mercies of God, that ye present your body a living sacrifice, holy accept-able unto God, which is your reasonable service. (Romans 12 vs 1).

The scriptures above has proofed to us that virginity until marriage still remains a godly virtue and not crime as it is being portrayed in the media and every other places today. Loss of virginity is lost of divine pride, makes you an inferior person with fake identity in the mist of chosen ones. You become a second hand material otherwise known as (Tokunbo in Nigeria), your case before heavenly host becomes of no importance , you will definitely belong to the category called noise makers before God, could lead to the transfer of your divine agenda because the divine covenant with your creator has been broken. It is lost of virtues and values. It could also lead to spiritual soul tie, putting you to perpetual slavery mainly when both of you end up not marrying each other.
By God standard you are meant to enjoy the nakedness of whoever you are married to and not any other person, so those watching pornography films, going to nude clubs to watch naked women has made themselves emotional slaves to the kingdom of darkness which is only God’s mercy can bring them back to His original plan for their life. “Now, although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame”. (Genesis 2 vs 25).

This is telling us that if you work in the counsel of God in your marriage it brings no shame. Loss of virginity brings shame and disgrace to the person because you have seen the nakedness of whom you shouldn't have seen at that time. Lost of virginity causes hatred and strife whenever you give your nakedness to another man order than your husband, it end up bringing shame, disgrace, guilt, disappointment and depression.

Just once is a deadly and dangerous act to obey, it is an enemy of Destiny, it brought calamity upon Adam and Eve in the glorious garden of Eden, it is going back to Egypt, it is a waster of Destiny, it has no good thing in it, it prolong the wilderness journey of life, it is a candidate of hell looking for companions that will follow him there. It is lust in action and not love. It is pretenders full of deadly poison. It has no forgiving spirit because it is demonic programmed to waste those that obey the call of Destiny. It brings strife and hatred into the family.
It may cause the end of your life; it could lead to diversion of Destiny, may cause you to suffer forever in life, and could cause hindrances to the manifestation of your glory. Just once is eating the for-bidden fruit just like Adam and Eve did in the garden of Eden, it is better to employ the proper slogan which says Zip-Up for the consequence is grievous which is only God who can determine but you can ask Adam and Eve of what becomes of them when they disobeyed God by eating the forbidden fruit.
Just once is a major instrument the devil is using at this end time to mortgage the destiny of people mainly the youths, it comes like a friend but the end result is destruction (John 10 vs 10).When your are heavenly bound, having a shining destiny then know that you have a battle to fight in order to fulfil your destiny. Having a good ambition, determination, setting out great goals are all good but it is not enough with-out God, so you need God to get to that level heaven has designed for you.
Listen to this true life story by one of our father in the Lord, there is a brother very ambitious and determined to obtain university degree with good grade because such have never happened in his family be-fore, the highest is secondary school. He wrote all the necessary examinations and by the grace of God he was admitted into one of the Nigeria best university to study Mechanical engineering, with his determination he was doing fine by leading his class but all of a sudden the wind of life started blowing towards him.
We were told that in his third year a beautiful young lady appeared also a student in the campus and stretch forth her hand of friendship but the brother refused that he does not want any distraction be-cause he has a mission yet to be accomplished, (first class). But despite his refusal the young lady did not give up she allowed him to finish his third year examination went for his industrial attachment then came back for the new session where he will be sitting for only first semester examination before going for his last industrial attachment to enter his final year.
One faithful day he went to study at night as usual then as he was coming back at the early hours of the morning this beautiful young lady appeared again and told him if truly he is a man he should test his potency, prior to this time the lady has been embarrassing him on campus that he is an impotent man, that if not why is him running away from her?
So out of anger he obeyed the strange voice of just once he bounced on the lady to proof that he is not impotent and all his aspirations, ambitions, goals and determination sank inside the young lady. The end result was that he became para-lyzed immediately trying to proof his potency and the beautiful young lady was nowhere to be found on campus again from that minute she completed her assignment. The brother had a very good ambition to break a family jinx, great determination was there but the Author of Destiny was far from him. “Remember yeah can do nothing without me.”
They use to be another brother with a glorious destiny in God very fervent in the Lord, God was using him and people were getting deliverance through his ministration. He was into a relationship with another Christian sister, after their graduation from the high institution they were posted to different part of the nation to serve their father land. Life were moving fine until a time came that the brother paid her a visit, when the sister finished taking her birth and wanted to dress up the brother went out since it is one room she is staying as a corper.
After the visit the brother went back to his station and continued his work. Then came a time the sister visited him, the brother also was staying in a single room as a corper, when she wanted to dress up the brother prepared to move out when she said what is so special in seeing her dress up forgetting that you are not meant to see the nakedness of your fiancé except your husband, the brother obeyed the voice and they defiled the temple of the living God.
After everything they parted, the sister went back to her station without anybody knowing what have happened between them, but for every examination there will always be a result to show your performance.
Two months later the sister went for check up where it was discovered she was pregnant, in the process of seeking for solution there boarded a bus which had an accident and the brother ended on a wheel chair because his spin cord was seriously affected while the sister died with the unborn child, what a tragedy. I want you to know that in this two life experience none of them did it twice but just once and their destiny were mortgaged, also that the devil is not after you following the direction of your penis as a man or you a woman opening your nakedness to another that is not your husband but the end result of you action is his desire. The bible says “flew from every appearances of evil.”


Sex is not the basis or foundation of marriage. Sexual relationship is not a sign of love to your partner but a way of satisfying emotional desire at a period of time, which may possible lead to pro-creation as ordained by God.
This is the reason why a man will tell you all kind of things (lies) in other to penetrate you, some of them can even sell their entire life by making promises they cannot keep but immediately after the 5-minutes enjoyment (suffering) you will be-come a piece of rag before him saying he can’t be mad to have made all such promises before you….
Most of all this love at first-sight, I will die if you say no, all my life depends on you, you are an angel, I have never seen someone as beautiful as you are, God added an extra day in creating you, friend all this are just satanic manipulated words to waste the Destiny of people mainly the youths at this end time through sex. How can someone that has not seen an angel or someone that cannot die for himself telling you he is going to die for you, is that not stupidity and foolishness.
Amnon the son of David was a professional in this act with the help of an evil counsellor his cousin called Jonadab. “And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar and Amnon the son of David loved her.
And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar, for she was a virgin and Amnon thought it hard for him to do anything to her. But Amnon had a friend whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimael David’s brother and Jonadab was very subtle man” (2nd Sa-muel 13vs1-3).
And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, come lie with me, my sister. And she answered him nay, my brother, do not force me, for no such thing ought to be done in Israel do not thou this folly. And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? And as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king, for he will not withhold me from thee. Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice but, being stronger than she forced her and lay with her. Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her arise be gone. (2 Samuel 13 vs 11-15).

Looking at this scripture vividly Amnon in chapter 1 vs 1b proclaimed that he love his sister very much, feeling that if he doesn't have her, he is going to die. In that chapter 1 Amnon was carried away by the beauty of her sister, he never loved her but lusted after her, the verse 15 of the same chapter really depicted the true nature of Amnon and the fruits of sexual immorality that occurs by seeing the nakedness of another woman which is not your wife. They are hatred, disappointed, shame, dis-grace and strife. This single act caused Amnon his life after two years i.e.. no matter how long it takes you will surely reap the consequence of your sin.

Amnon never loved Tamar, he was just lusting after her beauty because love keeps virginity till marriage while lust says it doesn't matter let do it, Love is always after Destiny but Lust doesn't care what happen to Destiny. Love sees sex before marriage as a sin while Lust sees it as a sign of love to your partner. Love prefers to honour God and fail the flesh while Lust prefers to satisfy the flesh and fail God. Love care about the future but Lust doesn't give a damn what happens to the future. Love sees virginity as a divine pride while Lust sees it as foolishness of ages. Love brings about fellowship and companionship while Lust brings hatred, strife, fear and insecurity. Love encourages renew despite the challenges and weakness while Lust is only after its desire, self-centred, selfishness and greedy. True and genuine love is from God while lust is from the pit of hell.
All sin is punishable before God but the most grievous of them all is sexual sin be-cause it involves your body which is meant to be the inhabitation of the Holy Spirit of God.
Sexual sin also involves blood mainly if you are a virgin then the first man that took away your divine pride from you becomes very important to your life and mainly the fulfilment of your Destiny.
Know that the blood that comes out by breaking your hymen wets his penis forming a blood covenant or soul tie between both of you which is heavenly recognized any time, any day so if you end up not marrying that person it could cause a lot of problem in your life like childlessness, late marriage, lack of divine favour, rejection from divine helpers etc, which is only God that can deliver you when genuine repentance occurs but do not forget that a lot of time and Destiny might have been wasted in the process of seeking for solution.

Know that when you are doing any-thing in secret, there are three ordained witness you cannot deceive in life, God, yourself and the Devil. Someone once said you can call devil all kinds of names on this earth but never you call the Devil a fool.
Keeping your virginity before marriage is an honour to God and man, it makes heaven to respect and trust you, it bring you favour before man and God, it makes heaven to commit a better and greater assignment to your hand, your responsibility becomes of higher level. God then can boast of you before the devil like the case of Job. God can proudly tell the devil look at my daughter and son, for they have lived for the past 25-30 years without a wife or husband and they are still pure before me despite all the challenges, trials that came their way. It makes heaven to fight for you even when you are weak in strength; it is a seal over your head.


The flesh is an enemy of our Destiny; it is capable of defiling any covenant you made with God if you are not careful in dealing with it and the most dangerous sin it is prone to is sexual sin. Sexual sin is just an open door to other sins which are capable of wrecking your Destiny like King David and the Israelites. king David was a man after God’s heart but single act of immorality (Adultery) with Bath-Sheba makes him a deceiver i.e. trying to deceive Uriah to go home and lie with his wife so that the truth will not be discovered and when that option failed he set up a machinery to kill him at the battle front through the captain of his army Joab making him a murderer .This single act almost caused him the entire kingdom.
Despite all what God did for the Israelites by not allowing the mission of Balak to come to pass in their life, the flesh came through immorality and wasted a lot of them because God is holy and cannot behold iniquity.

“While the Israelites were camped at Acacia, some of the men defiled them-selves by sleeping with the local Moabite women. These women invited them to attend sacrifices to their gods and soon the Israelite were feasting with them and worshipping the gods of Moab. Before long Israel was joining in the worship of Baal of Peor, causing the Lord’s anger to blaze against his people” (Num. 25 vs 1-3)

One of them out of no regard for God and man went as far as bringing one of the women to the sight of the congregation which he paid dearly for with his life.
“And behold, one of the children of Israel came and brought unto his brethren a Midianite woman in the sight of Moses, and in the sight of the congregation of the children of Israel, who were weeping before the door of the tabernacle of the congregation. And Phinehas the son of Eleazar, the son Aaron the priest, saw it he rose up from among the congregation, and took a javelin in his hand, And he went after the man of Israel into the tent, and thrust both of them through, the man of Israel, and the woman through her belly. So the plague was stayed from the children of Israel” (Num.25vs6-8).

This single act of Israelites led to the death of about 24,000 people telling us how angry God could be against any one that defiles the covenant. A lot of people today are like Zimri who damned Destiny in place of worldly affair even when others are crying for mercy, they can pay any price to satisfy the flesh in place of divine covenant but thank God for the life of Phinehas who understands that there is covenant in place which must not be broken otherwise Destinies will be at stake and as a result of his action the anger of God was personify.

Your virginity is a covenant between you and God before marriage, when you are deflowered before marriage then the covenant has been defiled, then Destiny is tempered with and when Destiny is tempered with fulfilment becomes at the mercy of God, just as the children of Israel were crying for mercy after their actions before Phinehas saved them.
They had an opportunity of crying for mercy but you may not have such opportunity like them so beware.

Author: Samuel Chukwu
Author's E-mail:ikchu2001@yahoo.com


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