Proverbs 22:6 ďTrain up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.Ē (NIV)
I sat down one day, prayed feverishly to God, and asked for wisdom. My children and I were going through the healing process from being victims to domestic violence. They were silent witnesses to domestic violence that I had tolerated too long. I wanted their childhood to be a complete reversal from the past so I visualized and set goals for what I wanted my childrenís childhood to be.
God spoke to me to envision what they would tell their kids about when their parents about their childhood. What stories would they have to share? Would they be good stories, traumatic stories, and sadness/fear stricken stories? Would they be grown adults that were emotionally healthy? On the other hand, would they carry deep scars from my parental choices and emotional roller coasters?
I created a vision-to encourage and mentor-to allows them to make mistakes. God showed me to be their support to help back them up when they fell in life. God had blessed me with parents that provided that unconditional love and support. I have been able to flourish with their Godly support providing confidence in my adulthood. God instructed me to follow through with the vision by communicating to them via text and/or in person these words-I am proud of you, I am so proud to be your mom, and I love you.
I want their childhood foundations built strong as the winds of change in adulthood come. Therefore, they would have emotional security inside to be able to endure and make healthy life choices. Without the negative inner self-talk dialect be hopeless, worthless, and your nothing or will not be anything. I want their inner dialect to be God driven; you are strong, you can figure out how to get through this obstacle with Godís direction, their loved, and help is only a phone call away.
I encourage you to seek Godís wisdom to create your mental vision for your children. Envision them as adults telling the stories of their childhood. Think about your everyday life, what is the atmosphere is that surrounds them in the privacy of your home. Is it an environment that when they are grown they felt safe, protected, loved, and happy in or is it an unstable, walking on eggshells, fearful experience? My goal is that my children will not spend their adulthood erasing and reprogramming themselves from damage during their childhood that God has entrusted me trains them in.