LEAVE THEM TO LEARN!
Every family, like everyone has a great glorious destiny. That's common knowledge. But the pathway, plan, pace and problems that bring about the accomplishment of each destiny are definitely distinct and unique. The nature, composition and pattern of certain destinies or purposes are so complex; with lots of twists, turns and undulating terrains that even the most astute professional christian counselor is left confused and even baffled!
In such extreme rare cases,I always humbly suggest that those directly involved should be left alone to seek and learn from the LORD until they mature, stable and steady enough to understand and acquire divine wisdom, boldness and of course sound christian character to assume their uncommon roles as probably pathfinders in some unique, novel way God is calling them to function.
Hebrews 5:8. Even though Jesus was God’s Son, he learned obedience from the things he suffered.
But that's not to mean that they shouldn't be supported in prayers or otherwise. No, because love is patient, kind and never gives up. So, Whenever I notice sound, fervent, faithful Christians experiencing a prolonged trying time, I don't want to be like Job's friends, but believe that something good is showing up soon. So, I simply respect and commend their endurance, tenacity and steadfastness.
Job 40:1-5. Then the Lord said to Job, 2 “Do you still want to argue with the Almighty? You are God’s critic, but do you have the answers?” 3 Then Job replied to the Lord,4 “I am nothing—how could I ever find the answers? I will cover my mouth with my hand. 5 I have said too much already. I have nothing more to say.”
Romans 8:28. And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.
They may fail and fall here and there, but as they keep loving and pursing the LORD and his might, all will turn around for good. Just a matter of time.