ROOT CAUSE OF FAILING MARRIAGES
Freelance writer Lupie Riley 1/19/14
Nations are built upon a strong family foundation. In 1935 Joseph Stalin was well aware of this when he quoted "If we can corrupt the morals of any one generation, communism can take that nation." When asked how he would accomplish this he replied, "with three things; immorality, music and dope." Nikita Khrushchev followed in his footsteps when he visited the U.S. Pounding his fists on the table he shouted, "We'll bury you! Without firing a shot!" Are these prophetic statements being fulfilled right before our eyes? Look around at the immorality, perversion and anti-God attitude that has permeated every walk of life in this country. Drugs, legal or illegal is the answer to whatever ails us be it mental or physical. Marriages are crumbling like quicksand while the gays fight for rights to be legally married. Both Stalin and Nikita knew that if the foundation of any nation, which is families and Godly standards, were undermined they could take it over without firing a shot.
In May of 1919 at Dusseldorf, Germany, the Allied Forces obtained a copy of "Communist Rules for Revolution" and in all probability these rules are still in effect today. I quote from # B7 which fits the condition of our present world. "By spacious argument, cause the breakdown of the old moral virtues of honesty, sobriety, self-restraint, faith in the pledged word, ruggedness." This is just one out of many of their strategies to weaken the strength of a nation by destroying its family unity and the people’s faith in the one God, Jehovah. What is the root cause of failing marriages today? One word....SELFISHNESS. The bible explains the end times as a selfish world. "For people will love only themselves and their money; they will be proud and boastful, sneering at God, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful to them, and thoroughly bad. They will be hardheaded and never give in to others; they will be constant liars and troublemakers and will think nothing of immorality. They will be rough and cruel and sneer at those who try to be good. They will betray their friends; they will be hotheaded, puffed up with pride and prefer good times to worshiping God." (Read all of chapter 3 in II Timothy and chapter 24 in Mathew.)
My husband, best friend and partner for 53 years once made a comment about a sticker that could be put on a mirror that says " my biggest problem." Very appropriate for today’s mindset. Little do those who are having relationship problems and on the verge of divorce realize there's something deeper going on. They deny or ignore the powerful dark force behind their chaos. His name is Lucifer or Satan and his main purpose is to steal, kill and destroy. They fail to realize there's a spiritual warfare going on inside and who will be the victor? We know if the marriage fails who has won the battle. This is very evident in the outcome of wars that leave a pile of rubble and ashes. Satan wants marriages to be reduced to a pile of rubble and ashes leaving children and families reeling from the outcome. He whispers in a spouse’s ear "what can he/she do for you to make you happy?" Programmed at that moment into the conscience mind is a selfish, narcisstic "me first and " nobody tells me what to do attitude" that separates and destroys any kind of communication and selfless, loving relationship they could have with their spouse. Frank Sinatra had it down in his popular song "I did it my way."
We live in a self-gratifying, gluttonous, addictive world of many idols and the prime suspect seems to be "self." With help from the New Age Movement and a variety of so-called spiritual organizations that bestow upon their unaware benefactors the title of the great "I AM" they become deified. Shirley McClain is one of the prime promoters of this Godhood ideology. My question would be if this were a reality wouldn't power come with the title of deity? It appears to me that the world is headed towards self-destruction and not the love and peace age of Aquarius. So what kind of power has been bestowed upon these God's? Satan from the very beginning wanted mankind to think they could become God's by rebelling against everything God had intended for his Creation. The repercussions from this disobedience is evident. God's initial plan before the fall was that Adam and Eve would live in a perfect world and plenish the earth with children. Today’s push for the acceptance of a different plan in the gay community is in direct opposition to what God intended for man and woman. The seed of this movement comes from the turmoil of broken homes. Confused, angry, abused and loveless children in their later years want to create a secure world full of love, acceptance and family, something they never had in their childhood.
The Word says that in God's original plan "You were united to your wife by the Lord. In God's wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one person in his sight. And what does he want? Godly children from your union. Therefore guard your passions! Keep faith with the wife of your youth. For the Lord, the God of Israel, says he hates divorce and cruel men. Therefore control your passions--let there be no divorcing of your wives.!" Malachi 2:15-16 Satan's WMD's have been selfishness, rebellion and unfaithfulness that destroy marriages and the family unit, the very foundation of any nation. The more we turn our backs on our Creator God to pursue after our own idols this country will suffer the repercussions from their sins. For those of you who struggle to keep your marriage together there are three things you can do to strengthen your relationship so that it will last a lifetime. In order to proceed, however, both parties must be in complete agreement and in one accord.
1. RETURN...to the beginning and how you first felt about your spouse. What was it that attracted you to him/her and experience once again the deep love you had for each other that culminated in marriage?
2. SET ASIDE...your own needs for a week and put your energy and time into re-discovering your spouse, their personality, passions and preferences. Communication and actions are vital at this point. "Listen much, speak little and don't be angry" James 1:19
3. RENEW...your commitment to your spouse and God who set the standards for marriage. Counselors are good but Godly advice from the One who gave us the moral standards to live by is always the best. His Word should be the final authority for living a good life and having a successful marriage. Confess your faults and mistakes, accept his forgiveness and allow Him to be a part of your life and marriage. "Look! I have been standing at the door and I am constantly knocking. If anyone hears me calling him and opens the door, I will come in and fellowship with him and he with me." Rev. 3:20 Now is the time for Salvation. He's coming soon!
This is an interesting article. I'm sure you are right that the breakdown of the family is the cause of a nations demise. You have some good suggestions at the end of your article.
It is also true that selfishness in the root cause of marriages to fail, however, selfishness is the cause of most problems and failures.
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